need some little sis advice..

[RaggedyAnn]

List your preference first, but let the New Member Educator know you would be open to having Twins.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by prettyinpink97

i was wondering about that... about maybe getting two. I've never heard of someone getting two littles at the same time. i worry that its not fair to them maybe?

My chapter has recently switched over to matching the bigs and littles by having the sisters and the new members choose their top 3, and the New Member Director makes the final decision. But prior to that change, as I mentioned, the littles would simply talk in one of their new member meetings, and choose their bigs.

One semester, about 3 years ago, we had 10 sisters and 9 new members. Everyone except the New Member Director was going to take a little. But two of the new members both wanted the same sister as their big. Both were dead-set on having her. They were discussing the situation for almost an hour, before the New Member Director finally decided to ask the new members if they'd mind sharing a big. They both agreed that would be fine. But before they were to ask the sister to be their big, the New Member Director, without explaining the situation to any of the sisters, asked all of them if any of them would mind taking two littles, or if anyone would mind not getting a little because someone else had two. None of the sisters saw it as a problem, so that one sister had two littles. But if anyone objected, they would have had to figure it out and one of the new members would have to choose another person.

That was a rare case though, and nothing like that had happened in the few years prior to, or after that.

And the more I think about your situation, the more I think that the New Member Director, and maybe a couple other sisters who don't want/aren't eligible for littles, should decide, based on what they think is fit. Because to have a sister choose one new member over another is forcing them to choose "favorites", which I don't think is good. That's why in our rare situation of this occurring, the New Member Director would not force the sister to choose one of the two girls, and suggested that she have two littles.