Question for fraternity members: What is your routine for balancing...?

[Autobahnkid]

Originally Posted by sopranology

Granted, sorority pledging is generally less involved than fraternity pledging (based on stories I've heard from my campus and others), but unless you want to be that guy in the back who isn't involved in his fraternity at all, it's only going to get worse once you're initiated. With the social activities (trust me, it's a weird feeling having a full social calendar), the recruitment activities, the preparation for the meetings, the actual meetings, your classes, your homework, your extra-curriculars, sports, etc. almost every moment of your day will be full.

I don't mean to be discouraging, though ... while it's stressful and I basically live 19 hour days, I wouldn't give up my time in AXiD for anything. Just be absolutely sure that you're willing to put in the time it takes. I'd say to go through pledging, but if you feel even the slightest inkling that your schoolwork is suffering, depledge immediately. My chapter once had a girl in a similar situation who was initiated and then decided that she just didn't have the time. Don't be like her. Deactivation is no fun at all.

thanks, thats all good advice, and yea for the reasons you mention i might just wait another year and use this year to make sure im fully organised (something im still trying to get in order), that way if i decide to rush i'll be ready for it

[CrackerBarrel]

Originally Posted by Autobahnkid

thanks, thats all good advice, and yea for the reasons you mention i might just wait another year and use this year to make sure im fully organised (something im still trying to get in order), that way if i decide to rush i'll be ready for it

I disagree. Pledging is a bigger time commitment for fraternities than being a brother is. Why? When you're a brother you don't always have to be at the house meeting guys, you don't have to clean the house up, you don't have to drive people around, etc. My advice would be that if you want to pledge to do it as soon as you can while you're taking easy classes. As you get older your classes get harder and your workload gets heavier, then you really have a hard time pledging.