Didn't Get Picked

[33girl]

Originally Posted by VTgoober

Does it hurt your chance of getting a bid if you cannot go to any of the greek events before recruitment? I am transferring in the spring and they are all in the fall since VT has deffered recruitment.

Are you a male or female?

[VTgoober]

i am a female and a sophomore/junior

[megangammaphi]

I definitely agree with those of you suggesting to outoftheloop that she rush again! I come from a school with a very competitive rush, and while i had success in joining the house I wanted freshman year I saw MANY who did not. Many of the girls I met going through rush were released from recruitment or decided to withdraw and try again next year. Of the 7 girls I remained close with who rushed again 5 ended up in houses and only one was released from rush the other decided greek life was not for her about half-way through. The advice I have for you is whether or not you think they matter work on getting recommendations for the houses at your schools from alums and start working on learning everything you can about recruitment do's and don'ts for your school. Meet girls in the greek system at your school too having friends in a house always helps you at least a little, even if its just that you can see a familiar face at the house. However, on a cautionary note if you think that having a repeat of last year could severely negatively affect you, then I would refrain from rush for the sake of your own sanity. Good luck with your decision!

[breathesgelatin]

Originally Posted by VTgoober

Does it hurt your chance of getting a bid if you cannot go to any of the greek events before recruitment? I am transferring in the spring and they are all in the fall since VT has deffered recruitment.

You might have better luck posting this in its own thread since your question is kind of unrelated to the topic of the original post.

I don't think it will kill you at VT to miss the fall Greek events - it might help to have gone to some, but I don't think not going will kill you.

That's based off my admittedly second-hand knowledge of VT rush from friends who went there.

[basket96]

Originally Posted by outoftheloop

i also have another question. if you go to grad school in the same place you rushed, since being in a sorority is for life, couldn't you still be part of the sorority on campus? i've heard of people changing campuses and having already rushed enter the same sorority/fraternity at a different chapter.

There are 2 things you might be asking here. One refers to transferring to a different school from where you first joined a sorority and that is called "Affiliation" and happens frequently. There are certain criteria for it, and each sorority may be different, but it can definitely happen.

The other question seems to be if you can remain active as a graduate student, and the answer (at least for Kappa) is yes, if you want to. But many grad students simply do not have the time to devote to being an active, but it is allowed. I don't think it happens often, though. I have also seen grad students serve as advisers or join alumnae associations.

You are right when you say membership is for life. It just looks a bit different at each stage of the game (new member, active, alumna, adviser, etc.). And once you join (become initiated) you can NEVER join another NPC organization. Someone on here says it the best when she says "you can change your hair color and even your husband, but you can never change which sorority you're in" (or something like that).

I do wish you luck and hope that things work out for you in the future.

[agzg]

My GLO does not allow grad students to remain active, and I'm kinda glad of it. Granted, I did grad school at a different campus than my own, but I know I did not have the time or energy to be able to fulfill the requirements for actives FOR SURE.

[basket96]

We have a big teaching credential program at our University, so some grad students, getting their credential (a 1 year program) decide to stay active, but most don't. I think if they joined as an upperclassman they are more likely to want to stay active, but if they pledged as freshmen, they usually don't.

Originally Posted by alphagamzetagam

My GLO does not allow grad students to remain active, and I'm kinda glad of it. Granted, I did grad school at a different campus than my own, but I know I did not have the time or energy to be able to fulfill the requirements for actives FOR SURE.

In the past, my chapter's been open to bidding older undergrads. My pledge class included a married 24 year old, and she was a great VPR.

Still, we once bid and initiated a 25 year old senior. She seemed nice and a great asset, but all that changed after Initiation. She realized that she really didn't have anything in common with her 18-19-20 year old pledge sisters, even accused someone in the chapter of stealing her RITALIN, and a month after she was Initiated, she wrote a letter demanding to go alum. We decided it was best to just cut the strings.

I don't think anyone's heard from her since.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by OTW

In the past, my chapter's been open to bidding older undergrads. My pledge class included a married 24 year old, and she was a great VPR.

Still, we once bid and initiated a 25 year old senior. She seemed nice and a great asset, but all that changed after Initiation. She realized that she really didn't have anything in common with her 18-19-20 year old pledge sisters, even accused someone in the chapter of stealing her RITALIN, and a month after she was Initiated, she wrote a letter demanding to go alum. We decided it was best to just cut the strings.

I don't think anyone's heard from her since.

I think that's part of the problem of bidding older women - you never know if they're going to get sick of hanging out with people so much younger than them. Honestly, people can disagree all they want but there's a HUGE difference between a 25 year old woman and a 20 year old. Sometimes it works (there was a chapter that bid a 27 year old and she worked out great for them!) and sometimes it doesn't.

[KSUViolet06]

Some thoughts/advice for those who don't get bids:

You aren't alone because at EVERY school, there are girls who for whatever reason don't receive bids.

Not receiving a bid doesn't make you less of a person.

Recruitment is not a guaranteed process and there are no guarantees that you will receive a bid.

We here at Greek Chat can offer sympathy or speculate about what happened, but we can't tell you with any degree of certainty why you/your loved one didn't receive a bid because:

* we don't know you/them personally.
* we aren't members of the sororities at your school.
* we weren't there to see you interacting with the sororities during rounds.
* the member selection process of every sorority is private information.

What we can do is suggest that you:

* maybe check out COB opportunities (if available).
* get involved in other activities at school.
* make friends, and enjoy the rest of college!

^^^That last point is SO important. It is okay to cry, get upset, whatever, but eventually you do need to realize that college DOES GO ON. While you're sitting around for weeks after rush being upset about not being Greek, you could be missing out on valuable opportunities to make friends and get involved on campus.