QUESTION!!!

[PinkRose1098]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

I know I'm out of my lane here, so sorry if I'm butting in, but I'm really having a really hard time imagining any guy wearing, much less feeling comfortable wearing, a lavaliere.

MysticCat, you just summed up what I was thinking.

I can't imagine my hubby wearing jewelry with AXD on it. He had no problem with the t-shirts and such. The only jewelry he wore in college was his cross he received when he was confirmed, his class ring, and a watch. Well, now he wears a wedding ring, but he knows what's good for him.

swimluv&alphaxi have you talk to him about your idea? He's really the only one who could tell you how acceptable it would be. I haven't come across any restrictions in our Constitution and By-laws so you would probably be OK there. It may have been done in the past because I have seen some interesting tie bars on Ebay and I don't know any girls who wear ties on a regular basis. But like I said before, I'd talk to your boyfriend about it before you purchase anything.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by 33girl

One of my sisters lavaliered her boyfriend (later husband). He just wore it like any other guy would wear a cross on a chain or something like that.

Originally Posted by PinkRose1098

I can't imagine my hubby wearing jewelry with AXD on it. He had no problem with the t-shirts and such. The only jewelry he wore in college was his cross he received when he was confirmed, his class ring, and a watch. Well, now he wears a wedding ring, but he knows what's good for him.

Maybe it's a regional/cultural thing. See where I'm from and in the particular segment of society I grew up in, a guy wouldn't wear a cross on a chain either. Guys do not wear anything resembling a necklace. Acceptable jewelry on guys is pretty much limited to:

• a watch (not gold),
• a wedding ring,
• one other ring, such as a class or signet ring (if he is not married, this is the only ring he wears),
• a fraternity badge,
• a lapel pin, and
• cufflinks when appropriate.

You just don't see guys wearing necklaces, tie tacks/bars/chains, or more rings. Anything beyond what I listed is usually considered tacky and, well, effeminate. (Just to be clear, I'm not saying that guys who wear crosses on a chain are effeminate. I'm just saying that in the culture I come from, wearing something like that would be viewed as effeminate. Or . . . well . . . Yankee. )

I'll assume swimluv&alphaxi has a handle on what is acceptable for a guy where she and her boyfriend are.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Or . . . well . . . Yankee. )

You hit the nail, dude.

[AXi1257]

I'm just saying that in the culture I come from, wearing something like that would be viewed as effeminate. Or . . . well . . . Yankee. )

You just made this midwestern Yankee girl giggle. I agree w/your post. If a guy is wearing more jewlery than me, than that's just wrong. I don't wear much jewelry, and if I do, I want it to be real and nice. Next time I'm out I'm going to be looking for all these Yankees wearing tacky jewelry

[PinkRose1098]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

You just don't see guys wearing necklaces, tie tacks/bars/chains, or more rings. Anything beyond what I listed is usually considered tacky and, well, effeminate. (Just to be clear, I'm not saying that guys who wear crosses on a chain are effeminate. I'm just saying that in the culture I come from, wearing something like that would be viewed as effeminate. Or . . . well . . . Yankee. )

I think I left something out when I mentioned the cross. You'd never see the thing during the normal course of the day. It lives under his shirt and when you look at you can tell it's only taken of if it would be dangerous to wear, or he's doing something were jewelry would get in the way (shower, sleep, yard work). I didn't mean to make Mr. PinkRose sound in any way effeminate. It's more just a religious thing for him.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by PinkRose1098

I think I left something out when I mentioned the cross. You'd never see the thing during the normal course of the day. It lives under his shirt and when you look at you can tell it's only taken of if it would be dangerous to wear, or he's doing something were jewelry would get in the way (shower, sleep, yard work). I didn't mean to make Mr. PinkRose sound in any way effeminate. It's more just a religious thing for him.

No, I figured that, and I wasn't meaning to imply that he is effeminate in any way. My point was just that in my experience most guys, including Catholics, "from around here" (as we would say) wouldn't even wear one under their shirts where it can't be seen. Why? Because guys "from around here just don't do that."

Different places, different styles, it would seem.