Didn't Get Picked

[33girl]

Originally Posted by gee_ess

I get the feeling, OP, that you were fairly unprepared going into recruitment. Your lack of knowledge of the terminology, particularly the term "rec" is a red flag.

Recruitment is like a job interview. You don't just walk in off the street and land a highly coveted position. The same can be true of recruitment. Can you shed some light on what your campus Greek life is like? Comment on Violetpretty's list above regarding what you think may have gone wrong, and we may be able to advise you better.

Oh my God thank you, because I was going to say what you said so nicely, not as nicely because I just didn't know how else to say it.

[gee_ess]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Oh my God thank you, because I was going to say what you said so nicely, not as nicely because I just didn't know how else to say it.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by gee_ess

I get the feeling, OP, that you were fairly unprepared going into recruitment. Your lack of knowledge of the terminology, particularly the term "rec" is a red flag.

Recruitment is like a job interview. You don't just walk in off the street and land a highly coveted position. The same can be true of recruitment. Can you shed some light on what your campus Greek life is like? Comment on Violetpretty's list above regarding what you think may have gone wrong, and we may be able to advise you better.

Could be, but it depends on the campus. If she goes to school in the South, the majority of the PNMs probably do have recs at a school with 7 chapters and not having recs could have been a downfall. Other places, you can be pretty clueless, register the day before recruitment, and still end up happy.

[gee_ess]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

Could be, but it depends on the campus. If she goes to school in the South, the majority of the PNMs probably do have recs at a school with 7 chapters and not having recs could have been a downfall. Other places, you can be pretty clueless, register the day before recruitment, and still end up happy.

Agreed. I still wish the OP would help us help her by filling in some blanks. Like some have said, going through rush a second time can be a real option, but that depends on several different factors.

[Thetagirl218]

Originally Posted by gee_ess

I get the feeling, OP, that you were fairly unprepared going into recruitment. Your lack of knowledge of the terminology, particularly the term "rec" is a red flag.

Recruitment is like a job interview. You don't just walk in off the street and land a highly coveted position. The same can be true of recruitment. Can you shed some light on what your campus Greek life is like? Comment on Violetpretty's list above regarding what you think may have gone wrong, and we may be able to advise you better.

Agreed...... It helps to have the things VioletPretty talked about in her post, and to do your homework on the sorority recruitment experience.....

I usually suggest COB....but not this time....

[angels&angles]

Long time watcher, first time writer, blah blah blah blah...

Anyway, I would like to add my two cents from my experience. Sometimes people who were not suitable for Greek life when they were freshmen can become great members as sophomores. I know a girl on my campus who was dropped from every house her freshmen year, who became a member of one of the top houses her sophomore year (it helped that she had a lot of friends in that house). Similarly, my house has in the past taken sophomores who we were not considering the year before. Sometimes people need a year to figure out who they are, and/or grow up. I'm not saying that re-rushing will help (I know a LOT of sophomores who don't get placed), but I'm just saying, sometimes that year really helps.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by cardsfan489

I am usually a lurker on here, but I felt that I needed to say something with this remark.

Originally Posted by angels&angles

Long time watcher, first time writer, blah blah blah blah...

What is so special about this thread that is pulling the lurkers out of the woodwork?

[Thetagirl218]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

What is so special about this thread that is pulling the lurkers out of the woodwork?

I am thinking those two posters are the same person....just a thought...

[SWTXBelle]

I'm waiting for the flounce and announcement that she/they have received MANY pms from GCers who support her/them.

[angels&angles]

no, no. I am not cardsfan (promise!) I just wanted to share that while it doesn't always, or maybe even often happen, from the other side of rush I have seen girls who were actually dropped from all houses go through recruitment successfully the second time. Generally, though, this only happened when PNMs changed whatever was causing the problem (got their grades up, changed their attitude about rush/sororities, etc), rather than going through exactly the same way and expecting a different result (rather like watching Titanic and expecting the boat not to sink this time).

Probably a bad time to de-lurk, but whatevs.

[violetpretty]

LOL every time I watch Titanic, I think, maybe, just maybe, Jack and Rose really will walk off the boat together in New York....

[Thetagirl218]

Originally Posted by angels&angles

I just wanted to share that while it doesn't always, or maybe even often happen,

That sentence makes no sense...........

Believe me.......A girl who goes through formal and is dropped by everyone before Pref won't fare well in most competitive formal recruitments the 2nd time around.....

[outoftheloop]

violetpretty has helped a lot.

i am a junior but i have two majors so i guess i could still be considered a sophmore in academic standing on one. my gpa isnt bad but it isnt as high as id want it to be because i've had a series of health problems in the past year and i work so i dont really do a lot on campus besides study. recs are not important on my campus; not even mentioned. when you said recs i thought you meant an equivalent to a rec aid which i associated with a rho gamma. i'm not transferring just to rush. my sister needs to go to school in a different city and my parents don't want her to live alone so they've volunteered me to live with her which means i have to change schools.

i primarily wanted to join a sorority for the friendships but a huge part was philanthropy. i'm going to be in school for a long time with my majors and i want to help people in the future. I'm not a sloppy dresser; quite the opposite. i work in an office where i have to look nice and my sister is going to fashion school.

i think it would be better if i still am interested at that time to rush after i transfer.

i also have another question. if you go to grad school in the same place you rushed, since being in a sorority is for life, couldn't you still be part of the sorority on campus? i've heard of people changing campuses and having already rushed enter the same sorority/fraternity at a different chapter.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by outoftheloop

i also have another question. if you go to grad school in the same place you rushed, since being in a sorority is for life, couldn't you still be part of the sorority on campus? i've heard of people changing campuses and having already rushed enter the same sorority/fraternity at a different chapter.

It depends on the sorority. There are certain ones who allow grad students to remain active, while others do not. I know mine doesn't.

Originally Posted by outoftheloop

i also have another question. if you go to grad school in the same place you rushed, since being in a sorority is for life, couldn't you still be part of the sorority on campus? i've heard of people changing campuses and having already rushed enter the same sorority/fraternity at a different chapter.

My sorority does not allow grad school students to remain as collegiate members, either.

Based on what I've read on GC, the majority of NPCs have similar policies.