Reality and grades

[ThetaPrincess24]

Originally Posted by Zillini

I guess they don't realize we actually check these out. Lying about something so important says a lot about one's character.

yes it does. We had one come through this year that claimed to be a legacy. Upon checking it out she turned out not to be a legacy. It is unknown if she lied intentionally to help boost her chances, or if she truly thought she was a legacy but wasnt.

[CarolinaCutie]

Originally Posted by ThetaPrincess24

yes it does. We had one come through this year that claimed to be a legacy. Upon checking it out she turned out not to be a legacy. It is unknown if she lied intentionally to help boost her chances, or if she truly thought she was a legacy but wasnt.

I know what you are saying, but I think intentionally lying about your GPA can be very different than being unsure of your legacy status.

We use ICS, and if the PNM lists herself as a legacy, it shows up. But for us, at a smaller school, many of the girls are not actually legacies because:
-the relation who is a sister is an aunt or someone who is not considered a legacy in our sorority
-the sister listed as a legacy is no longer in good standing
-the PNM listed friends or other acquaintances in the legacy spot instead of realizing that these people are her references
plus lots of other possible reasons that don't make her a liar.

[peaceloveclass]

Originally Posted by CarolinaCutie

I know what you are saying, but I think intentionally lying about your GPA can be very different than being unsure of your legacy status.

We use ICS, and if the PNM lists herself as a legacy, it shows up. But for us, at a smaller school, many of the girls are not actually legacies because:
-the relation who is a sister is an aunt or someone who is not considered a legacy in our sorority
-the sister listed as a legacy is no longer in good standing
-the PNM listed friends or other acquaintances in the legacy spot instead of realizing that these people are her references
plus lots of other possible reasons that don't make her a liar.

This actually happened to me...I *thought* my mom was a Tri-Delta (and she was, technically), so when I filled out my registration form, I proudly listed myself as a Tri-Delt legacy.

I knew she dropped out of school her senior year, and I knew that she didn't keep in touch with any of her sisters, but it wasn't something I really thought about. A girl who was a friend in that sorority told me later that I might want to check into my "legacy status" because something wasn't right. Turns out, my mom was a member in bad standing and knew all along and just never bothered to tell me (I STILL don't know the whole story, and my mom isn't too keen on telling me). So I looked like a complete idiot!

Last year, we had a girl go through recruitment who had a similar issue-- she listed herself as a legacy through her grandmother (her only greek relative), but when we checked it, she wasn't really. She had an incredible GPA and a long list of activities and volunteer work, and we all fell in love with her. It turned out that she thought her grandmother was a Phi Mu, when she actually was Pi Phi. She's now a proud sister and we all tease her about being a legacy now.

So mistakes do happen pretty regularly-- if a girl is outstanding in every other way, we try to give her the benefit of doubt if one thing just doesn't add up. *Usually* there's a decent explanation.