Retro Recruitment:: a brutally honest story

[aprocess]

Originally Posted by NYC2008

"Marissa had a stereotype of being pre-dominantly asian. I did not notice it at all my first year because I was blind to it (I never got the chance to hear the stereotypes). However, now that I knew it exsisted, i saw it. I would say about 85% (not true stats at all) were asian. And what makes it worse was that there was one group of caucasions (like 5-6 girls) in the sorority that you could tell were only friends with each other. It was this wierd segregation and it did not make me feel good."

I'm Asian and I joined a "Caucasian" sorority. My sorority sisters were about 90% blonde. I understand your need to be brutally honest and your desire for a house that is diverse but your comment was a little contradictory to what you want. I also don't understand where you assumed that the few "Caucasians" in the house meant that the women were only friends with eachother. How can you ASSUME anything when you're not a member of the house. If a person wants a diverse house than what does it mean if a house is predominantly Caucasian? I have a feeling I know what you were trying to say but if you wanted to be brutally honest you would say that you did not want a house that was predominantly Asian. That is an honest statement and one that I can respect. I will assume that your rush took place in California. I went to school in the south and was the only Asian in my sorority but I chose the house based on the girls that I met because I was "clueless" about rush & the different ranks. I hope your story is a happy one but your reaction to "Marissa" was a little off putting. You don't even want to give it a chance based on the fact that it's predominantly Asian.

As I said before, I am a sophomore. So I obviousily went to party's where the greek community were present (I actually have a funny story to say about one party that i will post in another post). I was very weary of Marissa at Party's. Since they were my #1 my freshman year, I definitely looked at them and their actions a lot more during parties i went to. Again, like i believe i have already mentioned I went to a party where the caucasians in the sorority arrived at the party together and the asians arrived together. They never really hung out together. The Ryans--on the other hand all kinda hung out in one big blob of them (despite their age difference).

I would apprechiate if you edited your post and please take out the location you mentioned. Though you are incorrect, I would still like to reveal the location and names on my own time for purposes (which I will reveal--again at my own time). Afterall, this is my GC thread and I have the right to reveal what i want when i want. Thank you.

Originally Posted by aprocess

I would apprechiate if you edited your post and please take out the location you mentioned. Though you are incorrect, I would still like to reveal the location and names on my own time for purposes (which I will reveal--again at my own time). Afterall, this is my GC thread and I have the right to reveal what i want when i want. Thank you.

Why should she have to edit it? If she's really incorrect, what's the problem?

[aprocess]

Originally Posted by OTW

Why should she have to edit it? If she's really incorrect, what's the problem?

Because I say so and I am the President of the world. duh.

Originally Posted by aprocess

Because I say so and I am the President of the world. duh.

Good luck making it happen!

[aprocess]

Originally Posted by OTW

Good luck making it happen!

I was just kidding OTW!!! I was just being spiteful when i asked her to edit her post.

Originally Posted by aprocess

I was just kidding OTW!!! I was just being spiteful when i asked her to edit her post.

I was kidding too. I know how it feels to be the President of the World. Things still don't happen they way you want them to happen.

Can't wait to hear the rest!

[NYC2008]

She's new. This recruitment story may very well be the first GC thread she's read.

She's entitled to her lecture just like you're entitled to yours.

This is not the first recruitment story I have read. This is the first time I have registered and posted an opinion.
I find it interesting that you feel that I was lecturing her. I was expressing my opinion as to how when one thinks of diversity it's usually about personality and not always about looks. If we are being really honest than how diverse is a caucasian house. I think it's hypocritical to say that an all white house is more diverse than an asian house. Do not put words in my mouth.
There was no need to be hostile and condescending. I stated that I understood where she was coming from but found it a little off putting that because it's an asian house that it's not diverse.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by NYC2008

She's new. This recruitment story may very well be the first GC thread she's read.

She's entitled to her lecture just like you're entitled to yours.

This is not the first recruitment story I have read. This is the first time I have registered and posted an opinion.
I find it interesting that you feel that I was lecturing her. I was expressing my opinion as to how when one thinks of diversity it's usually about personality and not always about looks. If we are being really honest than how diverse is a caucasian house. I think it's hypocritical to say that an all white house is more diverse than an asian house. Do not put words in my mouth.
There was no need to be hostile and condescending. I stated that I understood where she was coming from but found it a little off putting that because it's an asian house that it's not diverse.

EVERYONE SIMMER DOWN PLEAAAAAAAASE!

Originally Posted by NYC2008

She's new. This recruitment story may very well be the first GC thread she's read.

She's entitled to her lecture just like you're entitled to yours.

This is not the first recruitment story I have read. This is the first time I have registered and posted an opinion.
I find it interesting that you feel that I was lecturing her. I was expressing my opinion as to how when one thinks of diversity it's usually about personality and not always about looks. If we are being really honest than how diverse is a caucasian house. I think it's hypocritical to say that an all white house is more diverse than an asian house. Do not put words in my mouth.
There was no need to be hostile and condescending. I stated that I understood where she was coming from but found it a little off putting that because it's an asian house that it's not diverse.

FWIW, I was agreeing with you.

I hope your post wasn't directed to me.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by NYC2008

If we are being really honest than how diverse is a caucasian house. I think it's hypocritical to say that an all white house is more diverse than an asian house.

Diversity can be measured in other ways than just race, just so you know. You chastise the OP for being turned off by the de facto segregation she observed, yet you assume that a chapter that is predominantly White couldn't possibly be diverse. Chapters can be diverse in many ways. Race, religion, political views, economic status, body types, looks, styles, majors, hometowns, and of course, personality are all ways a chapter can be diverse. I'm sure there are chapters where all or nearly all of the members are white, Protestant, conservative, wealthy, tall, thin, blonde, beautiful, preppy, from the same few hometowns and studying one of a small handful of majors, but being predominantly White doesn't mean the members are alike in every other way.

[aprocess]

come on guys, panhellenic and IFC has a gamma (G.A.M.M.A.) chair which issssss.....

[BabyPiNK_FL]

I never took that comment to be rude, just as an observation. I have seen similar occurences in other chapters too.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by aprocess

come on guys, panhellenic and IFC has a gamma (G.A.M.M.A.) chair which issssss.....

Greeks Advocating Mature Management of Alcohol.

[APhiAnna]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Greeks Advocating Mature Management of Alcohol.

Haha, at our school it is kind of a joke in that the biggest lushes in all the houses are usually the ones nominated to GAMMA.

[NYC2008]

"Diversity can be measured in other ways than just race, just so you know. You chastise the OP for being turned off by the de facto segregation she observed, yet you assume that a chapter that is predominantly White couldn't possibly be diverse. Chapters can be diverse in many ways. Race, religion, political views, economic status, body types, looks, styles, majors, hometowns, and of course, personality are all ways a chapter can be diverse. I'm sure there are chapters where all or nearly all of the members are white, Protestant, conservative, wealthy, tall, thin, blonde, beautiful, preppy, from the same few hometowns and studying one of a small handful of majors, but being predominantly White doesn't mean the members are alike in every other way."

VioletPretty: That was the point I was trying to make. It was not meant to only be about race but when you state that because the house was predominantly Asian than it's going to relate to race. I didn't mean for this to become such a big issue and this is the last post regarding the topic.
I'm tired of being told that I was lecturing or chastising the OP. Your last statement that being predominantly one race does not mean the members are alike in every way was what I was trying to say about her decision that an Asian house was not diverse because it's all Asian. I was trying to say that does not mean it's not diverse! She stated she wanted a house that was diverse but later admitted that her decision was based on the house being predominantly one race. The only problem I had was that she stated that she wanted "diversity." I was trying to make the same point that you made above but it got turned into me "chastising the OP."
Listen, I understand what she was trying to say but instead of saying diverse why not just say because it was Asian and I would not have felt comfortable. That is brutally honest. I don't want the OP or anyone to think that i was implying that the woman was a racist because that is not what I was trying to say. I think if I had just left out the part that I was Asian it would not have been misinterpreted.
I'm a very direct person and I believe in posting my opinion but I didn't post it to be mean to the OP. I think people just misinterpreted what I wrote and it got blown out of proportion.