Important, Personal Question!!

[PANTHERTEKE]

Will it hurt your chances of being part of a sorority? It might
Will it hurt your changes of being part of what "is considered" a top sorority? Yes.

Sad I guess, but true. No matter what campus, there are always sororities that pledge only the prettiest girl- everything else that matters (like GPA) is secondary.

If that or those sororities bid a girl who doesn't "fit in" with the external look of the chapter, then it raises eyebrows and for the wrong reason- people start to think "what happened to XYZ this year?" or "damn, XYZ is on the decline" and members of that sorority don't want people thinking that; even if it isn't true.

So more likely than not, you'll get a bid. Now to which sorority is the question.

Sorry if it was too honest. :]

ETA: I forgot to mention that this also depends on which school you're at and how competitive it is. If it's a big Greek school and many girls go through rush each year, then it'll hurt your chances even more. But if your school's Greek life isn't that big and there are obviously 1 or 2 chapters known for bidding the "big girls" then what I said above pretty much still applies.

[loveinxi]

What was said above is sort of true. A lot of it depends on how you present yourself during rush. Like how hard you try. If you spend two hours getting ready and have on a really cute dress/nice outfit with matching shoes and your hair and makeup are flawless then that will definitely stand out that you take care of yourself and are concerned with your appearance. Like was said above some sororities will only take the tall skinny blondes, but more often then not there is at least one or two overweight girls in every sorority. Its all about you and how you present yourself. Besides would you want to be in a sorority that didnt accept you as you? probably not, at least I wouldnt.

[breathesgelatin]

Originally Posted by PANTHERTEKE

Will it hurt your chances of being part of a sorority? It might
Will it hurt your changes of being part of what "is considered" a top sorority? Yes.

Sad I guess, but true. No matter what campus, there are always sororities that pledge only the prettiest girl- everything else that matters (like GPA) is secondary.

If that or those sororities bid a girl who doesn't "fit in" with the external look of the chapter, then it raises eyebrows and for the wrong reason- people start to think "what happened to XYZ this year?" or "damn, XYZ is on the decline" and members of that sorority don't want people thinking that; even if it isn't true.

So more likely than not, you'll get a bid. Now to which sorority is the question.

Sorry if it was too honest. :]

ETA: I forgot to mention that this also depends on which school you're at and how competitive it is. If it's a big Greek school and many girls go through rush each year, then it'll hurt your chances even more. But if your school's Greek life isn't that big and there are obviously 1 or 2 chapters known for bidding the "big girls" then what I said above pretty much still applies.

I agree with this. But let's say you're George Bush's daughter (or Bill Gates's, or something). You'd probably still get a bid to the top house.

Good luck to you! I am really hoping you find a great home.

[PhoenixAzul]

What I think is important, in light of the (harsh, but unfortunately true on some campuses) advice you're getting above, is that you realize that if a sorority is going to discriminate against you based on your size or appearance...then you probably don't want to be part of that so called "sisterhood". If a sorority extends you a bid, they extend you a bid based on who you are right now, who they believe you can grow into in the course of your membership, and what you will bring to the sorority.

So go out there, best foot forward, and see what happens. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, right? Good luck!

[LPIDelta]

Originally Posted by PANTHERTEKE

Will it hurt your chances of being part of a sorority? It might
Will it hurt your changes of being part of what "is considered" a top sorority? Yes.

Yeah, as others have intimated--this won't be true at all campuses. At my alma mater, it clearly wasn't, as there were women of all sizes in all chapters. I've also seen it on the campus I advise. More and more chapters are looking for well-rounded women who can present themselves well. I like to call it looking "put together". Is your hair done? Are your nails and toes painted? Are you wearing a sharp looking outfit? Are you wearing makeup and accessorizing appropriately? Are you well spoken? Is your resume full of interesting activities and good grades? Your size doesn't matter for those things.

I encourage you to give it a try. Of course weight may be an issue--but then you have to ask yourself whether you really wanted to be friends with such people anyway, right?