Retro Recruitment:: a brutally honest story

[LAblondeGPhi]

Originally Posted by NYC2008

"Marissa had a stereotype of being pre-dominantly asian. I did not notice it at all my first year because I was blind to it (I never got the chance to hear the stereotypes). However, now that I knew it exsisted, i saw it. I would say about 85% (not true stats at all) were asian. And what makes it worse was that there was one group of caucasions (like 5-6 girls) in the sorority that you could tell were only friends with each other. It was this wierd segregation and it did not make me feel good."

I'm Asian and I joined a "Caucasian" sorority. My sorority sisters were about 90% blonde. I understand your need to be brutally honest and your desire for a house that is diverse but your comment was a little contradictory to what you want. I also don't understand where you assumed that the few "Caucasians" in the house meant that the women were only friends with eachother. How can you ASSUME anything when you're not a member of the house. If a person wants a diverse house than what does it mean if a house is predominantly Caucasian? I have a feeling I know what you were trying to say but if you wanted to be brutally honest you would say that you did not want a house that was predominantly Asian. That is an honest statement and one that I can respect. I will assume that your rush took place in California. I went to school in the south and was the only Asian in my sorority but I chose the house based on the girls that I met because I was "clueless" about rush & the different ranks. I hope your story is a happy one but your reaction to "Marissa" was a little off putting. You don't even want to give it a chance based on the fact that it's predominantly Asian.

eek. Clearly this is a RETRO recruitment thread, and clearly the OP has been BRUTALLY HONEST throughout it. She is even very open about other superficial factors she was looking at. I think we've all matured quite a bit since the days when we were all PNMs.

Coming from a Greek system that actually might be the OP's, if not very similar, I know exactly what she's talking about. She also is going through this second recruitment as a sophomore, so she has observed Marissa over the course of the year and stated that she saw cliques in action (not just during recruitment). It's not really a PC thing for her to admit, but she's being honest, and she apparently would have honestly felt like an outsider in a predominantly Asian house. And for the record, it sounds like the house she was describing wasn't very diverse at all, in fact it sounds pretty homogenous.

Just my two cents.....

On with the story!!

[aprocess]

Originally Posted by NYC2008

"Marissa had a stereotype of being pre-dominantly asian. I did not notice it at all my first year because I was blind to it (I never got the chance to hear the stereotypes). However, now that I knew it exsisted, i saw it. I would say about 85% (not true stats at all) were asian. And what makes it worse was that there was one group of caucasions (like 5-6 girls) in the sorority that you could tell were only friends with each other. It was this wierd segregation and it did not make me feel good."

I'm Asian and I joined a "Caucasian" sorority. My sorority sisters were about 90% blonde. I understand your need to be brutally honest and your desire for a house that is diverse but your comment was a little contradictory to what you want. I also don't understand where you assumed that the few "Caucasians" in the house meant that the women were only friends with eachother. How can you ASSUME anything when you're not a member of the house. If a person wants a diverse house than what does it mean if a house is predominantly Caucasian? I have a feeling I know what you were trying to say but if you wanted to be brutally honest you would say that you did not want a house that was predominantly Asian. That is an honest statement and one that I can respect. I will assume that your rush took place in California. I went to school in the south and was the only Asian in my sorority but I chose the house based on the girls that I met because I was "clueless" about rush & the different ranks. I hope your story is a happy one but your reaction to "Marissa" was a little off putting. You don't even want to give it a chance based on the fact that it's predominantly Asian.

As I said before, I am a sophomore. So I obviousily went to party's where the greek community were present (I actually have a funny story to say about one party that i will post in another post). I was very weary of Marissa at Party's. Since they were my #1 my freshman year, I definitely looked at them and their actions a lot more during parties i went to. Again, like i believe i have already mentioned I went to a party where the caucasians in the sorority arrived at the party together and the asians arrived together. They never really hung out together. The Ryans--on the other hand all kinda hung out in one big blob of them (despite their age difference).

I would apprechiate if you edited your post and please take out the location you mentioned. Though you are incorrect, I would still like to reveal the location and names on my own time for purposes (which I will reveal--again at my own time). Afterall, this is my GC thread and I have the right to reveal what i want when i want. Thank you.

Originally Posted by aprocess

I would apprechiate if you edited your post and please take out the location you mentioned. Though you are incorrect, I would still like to reveal the location and names on my own time for purposes (which I will reveal--again at my own time). Afterall, this is my GC thread and I have the right to reveal what i want when i want. Thank you.

Why should she have to edit it? If she's really incorrect, what's the problem?

[aprocess]

Originally Posted by OTW

Why should she have to edit it? If she's really incorrect, what's the problem?

Because I say so and I am the President of the world. duh.

Originally Posted by aprocess

Because I say so and I am the President of the world. duh.

Good luck making it happen!

[aprocess]

come on guys, panhellenic and IFC has a gamma (G.A.M.M.A.) chair which issssss.....

[gee_ess]

FYI

NYC2008, we try to take these recruitment stories at face value and just relax and let the story roll...no need for lectures or chastising the OP

Originally Posted by gee_ess

FYI

NYC2008, we try to take these recruitment stories at face value and just relax and let the story roll...no need for lectures or chastising the OP

She's new. This recruitment story may very well be the first GC thread she's read.

She's entitled to her lecture just like you're entitled to yours.

[Javalover]

aprocess -
You've done a wonderful job on this thread, and I can't wait to read the outcome! I loved that you have been honest with your perceptions and views. We all are human, and often have less than p.c. perceptions, but they are, none the less, our true experience. In a thread like this they really do help readers feel and understand your recruitment environment. Thanks for being honest...
Now FINISH IT!!!

[texas*princess]

I think we should take a shot each time the phrase "brutally honest" is used here

Originally Posted by texas*princess

I think we should take a shot each time the phrase "brutally honest" is used here

I know.

[gee_ess]

I wasn't lecturing, just giving her the heads up, and I probably should have just let it roll off my back. But I really like what aprocess is writing and didn't want her to take offense because she was truly trying to be "brutally honest" (pass the salt and a lime, please)

Now, I will sit back and anxiously await the end of the story!

[ajmom3]

Gamma....as in someone's Gamma or Gampa?

[agzg]

Originally Posted by ajmom3

Gamma....as in someone's Gamma or Gampa?

BAHAHAHAHA! I have no idea what it means either but this almost made me wet my pants. I know that's TMI, but I wanted to be "brutally honest." Tee hee.

[SigKapSweetie]

AFAIK, that would be Greeks Advocating the Mature Management of Alcohol (GAMMA) - AKA the Party Police.