You're right, I am at a school with deferred recruitment. The silence period doesn't start until mid-December. Plus last year she asked me to lunch about this time (a little later in the semester, admittedly).
I don't think it'd be against the rules, but I'm afraid of coming across too forward! AHH I don't know what to do
I really like this girl and I really do like the women in her house.
You're right, I am at a school with deferred recruitment. The silence period doesn't start until mid-December. Plus last year she asked me to lunch about this time (a little later in the semester, admittedly).
I don't think it'd be against the rules, but I'm afraid of coming across too forward! AHH I don't know what to do
I really like this girl and I really do like the women in her house.
Speaking as someone who went through deferred formal recruitment at a school where fall "informal" was really important, you should definitely go to lunch with her. DEFINITELY. Don't worry about it. Rather than seeming too forward, rejecting an invitation might seem like you're not interested in her sorority. Now, don't invite yourself to lunch with her. But if she invites you, you should accept. If silence doesn't begin until mid-December, you should be fine. The only thing is that she cannot pick up your lunch or anything - that would be a red flag that she is committing a recruitment violation.
I'm making the assumption here that your school works a lot like mine did...
I went through rush with full schedules last year. I got all the way to the second to last round and was not matched with any sorority. It happened to a few girls-- very rare and very upsetting.
It took a lot for me to decide to rush again; as anyone would be, I was hurt and stunned for a long time. But I have decided to give it one more try, as I would really like to be a part of a sorority and the Greek system in general. In addition, many girls I met during rush have approached me (many of them I consider friends now) and encouraged me to rush a second time.
And I am open to all of the houses-- I realize with each new pledge class the personalities do change somewhat. I just do have a few ideas as to which houses I liked from last year.
Thanks for the info. I hope things go better this year!
I would just ask her if she wants to grab lunch - don't bring up that you are rushing because it might seem you're just trying to pump her for info. She probably will bring it up, so when she does let her know you're interested!
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I mentioned to her that I was rushing and she was very happy to hear that (very encouraging! yay). She immediately asked if I wanted to grab lunch with her and some other women in her house which OF COURSE I accepted!
I mentioned to her that I was rushing and she was very happy to hear that (very encouraging! yay). She immediately asked if I wanted to grab lunch with her and some other women in her house which OF COURSE I accepted!
I hope things go better this year!
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