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[pbear19]

Originally Posted by Jen

You seem like a bitch.

Sincere question, not just to Jen but to all. I've always been a bit confused by this dynamic on GC and am hoping you all can clear it up for me.

Why is it ok for Jen say this, but not ok for phimu88 to say whatever she said? I'm not saying either action is appropriate or inappropriate, but it seems like this whole kerfluffle started because of names being called. I'm sure I'm missing something important - show me the light, please GCers!

[nittanyalum]

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

Send me a copy - I'd like to relive the fun.

PM coming your way! And Jen, got your PM, coming your way too.

Originally Posted by phimu88

me too! I would really love to have a copy of that too

No.

Originally Posted by pbear19

Why is it ok for Jen say this, but not ok for phimu88 to say whatever she said?

Because we like Jen.

[pbear19]

Originally Posted by nittanyalum

Because we like Jen.

I think that's why I haven't ever been able to grasp the dynamic. I get it, that it's a 'known person' thing, but there's this part of me that always thinks it's illogical whenever it happens.

Originally Posted by Tippiechick

She can call me whatever she wants. She can use whatever words she wants. But, I expect someone to have enough guts to admit what they did and said in a thread.

I pretty much knew what happened, I just didn't understand why you guys were upset about it, if it was an act that everyone was participating in. So I guess it's more the unwillingness to embrace the antagonism?

Originally Posted by epchick

It really depends on the poster and how long they've been on GC. Seniority has its perks.

That I definitely know, but it doesn't make it any more logical to my little brain.

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

Sincere answer. It's not about appropriate or not appropriate. For the most part, folks on here don't take things seriously and are just entertaining themselves. You appear to be thinking too hard about this situation. The best way to handle it is to jump in or just watch and giggle.

Taking things too seriously is a failing of mine. But it's a question that I've had on my mind from many years of GC observation, and I thought this was a good place to ask. I'm a puzzle solver, and when I don't understand something it bugs me.

Thanks for the honest answers, all! I don't know that it makes any more sense to me personally, but I can see why it makes sense to others a bit better.

/overly serious hijack

[Tippiechick]

Originally Posted by pbear19

Sincere question, not just to Jen but to all. I've always been a bit confused by this dynamic on GC and am hoping you all can clear it up for me.

Why is it ok for Jen say this, but not ok for phimu88 to say whatever she said? I'm not saying either action is appropriate or inappropriate, but it seems like this whole kerfluffle started because of names being called. I'm sure I'm missing something important - show me the light, please GCers!

Recap:
Phimu88 called me out for using the term "melodramatic bitch" about ukwhateverhernameis when the girl was whining. (Girl had gotten a bid to KD but was whining b/c some girls said they wanted to see her again and then she was cut by groups she didn't get a bid to. Girl was whining about everything seeming so fake and how fake those girls were. We had tried to tell her that one girl didn't make membership decisions alone...) Phimu88 said we should act like adults, avoid name-calling and be nice.
People chimed in agreeing for the most part. (Esp. Lightning Bug)
I said I wouldn't change. If they didn't like it, they could ignore me.
OTW says it's the Battle of Ole Miss.
Phimu88 says there's no way I could have possibly attended Ole Miss with my obvious lack of education.
People fill her in on the fact that I did go there.
She starts going off the deep end wondering how my husband (if I could find one) puts up with me. Smacks off about being a lady, etc.
I FINALLY use the word fuck in response to her.
She continues to remark about how low class I am.
EPchick announces that perhaps her feelings of anger toward me are simply displaced as a result of her getting knocked up and having to drop out of Ole Miss while I actually HAD a sorority experience.
She defends herself by stating she has been dating her husband/baby daddy since she was FOURTEEN.
She says something about being proud of her situation and that I should be ashamed of my potty mouth.
I say that my sisters would rather have a chick saying "fuck you" and "bitch" than having someone get knocked up after doing the walk of shame from fraternity row.
Then, she wants to know what sorority let in such a filthy mouth.
Shid posts the best post in the thread by saying, "Not the one that let in your filthy pussy!"
After that, it was basically her leaving, and people from the triad thread in CC just posting to piss her off and trying to run her off.
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Point is, she was the one complaining about treating people badly and wanting people to be nice. Then, she was the one who went off being a bitch after I had told her to put me on ignore.

She can call me whatever she wants. She can use whatever words she wants. But, I expect someone to have enough guts to admit what they did and said in a thread.

[phimu88]

Originally Posted by Tippiechick

Recap:
Phimu88 called me out for using the term "melodramatic bitch" about ukwhateverhernameis when the girl was whining. (Girl had gotten a bid to KD but was whining b/c some girls said they wanted to see her again and then she was cut by groups she didn't get a bid to. Girl was whining about everything seeming so fake and how fake those girls were. We had tried to tell her that one girl didn't make membership decisions alone...) Phimu88 said we should act like adults, avoid name-calling and be nice.
People chimed in agreeing for the most part. (Esp. Lightning Bug)
I said I wouldn't change. If they didn't like it, they could ignore me.
OTW says it's the Battle of Ole Miss.
Phimu88 says there's no way I could have possibly attended Ole Miss with my obvious lack of education.
People fill her in on the fact that I did go there.
She starts going off the deep end wondering how my husband (if I could find one) puts up with me. Smacks off about being a lady, etc.
I FINALLY use the word fuck in response to her.
She continues to remark about how low class I am.
EPchick announces that perhaps her feelings of anger toward me are simply displaced as a result of her getting knocked up and having to drop out of Ole Miss while I actually HAD a sorority experience.
She defends herself by stating she has been dating her husband/baby daddy since she was FOURTEEN.
She says something about being proud of her situation and that I should be ashamed of my potty mouth.
I say that my sisters would rather have a chick saying "fuck you" and "bitch" than having someone get knocked up after doing the walk of shame from fraternity row.
Then, she wants to know what sorority let in such a filthy mouth.
Shid posts the best post in the thread by saying, "Not the one that let in your filthy pussy!"
After that, it was basically her leaving, and people from the triad thread in CC just posting to piss her off and trying to run her off.
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Point is, she was the one complaining about treating people badly and wanting people to be nice. Then, she was the one who went off being a bitch after I had told her to put me on ignore.

She can call me whatever she wants. She can use whatever words she wants. But, I expect someone to have enough guts to admit what they did and said in a thread.

that is your version... you left out what you wanted to leave out. If I were to post the entire thread it would explain alot more of what was said. Why dont you put me on ignore.

You cant run me off btw ... i leave when I feel like it .

[Tippiechick]

Originally Posted by phimu88

that is your version... you left out what you wanted to leave out. If I were to post the entire thread it would explain alot more of what was said. Why dont you put me on ignore.

You cant run me off btw ... i leave when I feel like it .

Post it.

What did I leave out? C'mon... Tell me. Because, I think John can read deleted posts. Let's ask him.

[phimu88]

Originally Posted by Tippiechick

Post it.

What did I leave out? C'mon... Tell me. Because, I think John can read deleted posts. Let's ask him.

There was a lot that was left out, but unfortunately I didnt save the entire thread.

But if you know John, please ask him to repost the entire thread. If they just want to lock it that's fine with me. Then no one can go in and change anything that was said!

[SWTXBelle]

In the meantime, yes, what exactly did she leave out? Obviously you are aware of what was left out -

[phimu88]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

In the meantime, yes, what exactly did she leave out? Obviously you are aware of what was left out -

just get the thread reposted since you all have so much power and influence on here it shouldnt be too hard for you, right?

[Tippiechick]

Originally Posted by phimu88

There was a lot that was left out, but unfortunately I didnt save the entire thread.

But if you know John, please ask him to repost the entire thread. If they just want to lock it that's fine with me. Then no one can go in and change anything that was said!

Um, the thread was deleted. No one can change anything now.

[epchick]

Originally Posted by Tippiechick

Post it.

What did I leave out? C'mon... Tell me.

You left out that she corrected my statement and said she got knocked up during her SECOND year (which doesn't really add up...but whatever)

You left out Lightning Bug and her 1 month old neice (or however old) that read the whole thread and questioned our morals & how we behaved ourselves. Then Senusret claimed the girl was a "nosey B**" lol



....but i don't think that's what she's getting at. You didn't leave out anything that would benefit her assertations of the thread.

[aopirose]

Originally Posted by epchick

You left out Lightning Bug and her 1 month old neice (or however old) that read the whole thread and questioned our morals & how we behaved ourselves.

She was 10.

[phimu88]

Originally Posted by epchick

You left out that she corrected my statement and said she got knocked up during her SECOND year (which doesn't really add up...but whatever)

You left out Lightning Bug and her 1 month old neice (or however old) that read the whole thread and questioned our morals & how we behaved ourselves.



....but i don't think that's what she's getting at. You didn't leave out anything that would benefit her assertations of the thread.

Right my words were left off and made to sound much worse than they were. Plus you are painting it out now that I got knocked up at college and she made it sound like it happened on fraternity row... not the case. I got pregnant by a guy I had been dating ... or "going out with" since tippe doesnt like the fact that I used the word dating... for 5 years. Then someone proceeded to say that I was jealous of tippie because I didnt get to experience the 4 years of sorority life. Which is funny since ZTA closed its doors at Ole Miss and she only had her 2 years there too... There was a Phi Mu chapter at USA and they were all very welcoming to me there... after I transferred from Ole Miss.


The way ya'll are posting on here makes it sound like I was really insulting her... they were jabs not true insults. I thought ya'll had thicker skin on here.

[Tippiechick]

Originally Posted by phimu88

Right my words were left off and made to sound much worse than they were. Plus you are painting it out now that I got knocked up at college and she made it sound like it happened on fraternity row... not the case. I got pregnant by a guy I had been dating ... or "going out with" since tippe doesnt like the fact that I used the word dating... for 5 years. Then someone proceeded to say that I was jealous of tippie because I didnt get to experience the 4 years of sorority life. Which is funny since ZTA closed its doors at Ole Miss and she only had her 2 years there too... There was a Phi Mu chapter at USA and they were all very welcoming to me there... after I transferred from Ole Miss.


The way ya'll are posting on here makes it sound like I was really insulting her... they were jabs not true insults. I thought ya'll had thicker skin on here.

Since you want to get more personal -- Stop acting like your husband now (your high school sweetheart) is the one who knocked you up. He isn't.

[SWTXBelle]

. . . well, if you were to leave, we wouldn't have the opportunity to revisit the Square. So . . .thanks, I think.

And YES - by all means! Let's have the thread posted.