Phil? Is that you?
Anyway, I worked as a part-time tutor, then in a grocery store bakery, and then at a chain bookstore as a cashier, until finally getting the professional (and boring) job I have now a couple of weeks ago. I'm married to a rocket scientist (seriously). I felt pretty crappy, too, and angry because my fancy-schmancy 4-year degree wasn't doing me a whole lot of good. (Phil, btw, is my lawyer friend's boyfriend who also has a degree but can't get a job and works retail.) But you're trying, that's all you can do when the economy sucks so bad, and it sounds like she understands that. So you just have to deal with it - you'll feel a lot worse without her!