what is the point of recs?

[volalum]

When a girl decides to go through rush, it can be a great teaching experience about the process of asking someone to write a recommendation for you. a mother can help a daughter form a list of who she may know that was in a sorority, then she can encourage her D to explore and ask questions at church or school or neighbors. Before D realizes it, she will uncover lots of women who were in sororites. THEN it is up to D to write a nice note to each woman asking for a rec. Her mom can teach her to include a self addressed stamped envelope, a picture a resume... Most importantly the mom can instruct to write a follow up thank you note for writting the rec. If all this is done, not only will the PNM have wonderful recs, but she will learn that it is her responsibility to prepare and be organized for a "job interview" and that stuff just doesn't get handed to you. I only have expereince in SEC schools, but with 1000 girls going through rush these days. chapters can't get recs on girls any more...they ususally just cut them the first night if no rec.