Regarding the "Can I Join Another Group" threads

[Kansas City]

Originally Posted by vaisbest

it would be a much better social organization if all kids were required to wait until jan to rush. just my take.

I disagree. Deferred recruitment is okay but it can lead to PNMs creating often inaccurate stereotypes of the chapters for when they do finally go through recruitment. I prefer fall recruitment (particularly for freshmen) when more PNMs have a more open mind when selecting a chapter.

[AOEforme]

Originally Posted by Kansas City

I disagree. Deferred recruitment is okay but it can lead to PNMs creating often inaccurate stereotypes of the chapters for when they do finally go through recruitment. I prefer fall recruitment (particularly for freshmen) when more PNMs have a more open mind when selecting a chapter.

Agreed. PNMs can end up in the wrong house because of these preconcieved stereotypes.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by AOEforme

Agreed. PNMs can end up in the wrong house because of these preconcieved stereotypes.

But the other side of that coin is - better to have them hear all that, and then get to know the sisters and want to join "the fat house" anyway. That way you know they're there because they like the sisters and want to be there, not because it's the (supposed) most popular group.

We have had too many threads on here saying "I pledged XYZ my first semester and they are NOTHING like they were at rush." If you get to watch and meet sorority members for a semester, that problem disappears. (And if you wait until rush to meet anyone - your bad.)

Mods - can we maybe hook this onto a more pertinent thread or break it into one of its own? I can see it going off on a tangent and that's not what your sticky is for.

[vaisbest]

I totally agree. But when you read the comments like someone else posted that suggests you read something to tell you why your "angel"did not get a bid, it really tells you a lot about the lack of interest in how it all effects these kids. Ladies, these are kids. They are 18, fresh from home and playing grown-up. When I read ugly things telling you to move on if it does not work out, etc, I can only think one thing....girls, look at the mothers of the girls in your recruiting class. ask your moms if other moms like them. cause 9 time out of 10, the daughter acts very like the mother. I have seen many young ladies that have be appalled at the behavior of girls that are the "popular" ones in the sorority that is the popular one. maybe if you are worried that your sorority will get a bad rap, there is a valid reason for that. I have actually counseled someone that had a daughter attend a southern school where one group was on the surface, made up of those that do lots of service and lots of good work. But to their own sisters, they were very different. In her words, if you think the show Greek is just a show, you are wrong. It is exactly how sisters treat each other. And if she had had time to really see what these girls were like she would never had joined. Fall recruitment of freshmen is pushing them into something that many don't really fit into.