People that you would NOT recommend. - Page 6

I.C. a Pi Phi · #76 08-19-2008, 09:13 PM

I think this was 5 or 6 years ago. A high school girl had been drunk driving and killed someone. It had made the local papers.

Fast forward. The girl enrolls in UGA and decides to go through rush. Somebody back in her hometown learns that she wants to rush. This anonymous person sends newspaper clippings about this girl to every sorority on campus.

The girl is cut from every house.

Zillini · #77 08-19-2008, 09:38 PM

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Originally Posted by JennRN

Ok, this is a twist on the topic-let's say you wrote a PNM a rec and after a while found out some not great things about her? Nothing horrible, like murder or anything, but just things that would make you think-you know what, I'm not sure I'd like you as a sister after all. Would you contact the chapter and let them know? Or just leave it?

This is not happening to me, but I was thinking about it the other night and was just curious.

Depends a lot on what sort of information we're talking about. I'd suggest you contact one of the advisors and let them make the call.

AnchorAlumna · #78 08-20-2008, 12:43 AM

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Originally Posted by JennRN

Ok, this is a twist on the topic-let's say you wrote a PNM a rec and after a while found out some not great things about her? Nothing horrible, like murder or anything, but just things that would make you think-you know what, I'm not sure I'd like you as a sister after all. Would you contact the chapter and let them know? Or just leave it?

This is not happening to me, but I was thinking about it the other night and was just curious.

It's happened. And I did contact the chapter and withdrew my sponsorship.

KSUViolet06 · #79 08-20-2008, 12:49 AM

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Originally Posted by JennRN

Ok, this is a twist on the topic-let's say you wrote a PNM a rec and after a while found out some not great things about her? Nothing horrible, like murder or anything, but just things that would make you think-you know what, I'm not sure I'd like you as a sister after all. Would you contact the chapter and let them know? Or just leave it?

I'd defintely let the Membership Recruitment Director of that chapter know that I have withdrawn my recommendation (and why).

TSteven · #80 08-20-2008, 02:07 AM

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Originally Posted by sjsoffer

I'm not an alum, but there is a girl from my old HS I will do anything possible to prevent from joining my sorority! No one at all likes her anymore due to a lot of drinking and sleeping around with people she shouldn't, and she even put up pictures of her playing beer pong topless while random guys groped her. I actually saved them just in case she decided to go through recruitment, which I found out today that she did!

As compared to a lot of drinking and sleeping around with people she should?

purlgurl · #81 08-20-2008, 10:53 PM

This brings up an issue for me this year. I was asked to write a rec for girl who is basically insufferable, causes dramas, is a brat, and bossy. Mediocre grades. I decided not to send it in because I had to either say I sponsored her for membership or say the rec was information only meaning I did not know the PNM. I knew her, I just didn't want to thrust her on to the old gang. So I tore it up. But I've wondered several time since then if I should have sent something that would forewarn them. It's not too late but I'm still torn. Maybe Regina George is the flavor of the month and the chapter wouldn't mind having her but I shudder to think.

#82 08-20-2008, 10:56 PM

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Originally Posted by purlgurl

This brings up an issue for me this year. I was asked to write a rec for girl who is basically insufferable, causes dramas, is a brat, and bossy. Mediocre grades. I decided not to send it in because I had to either say I sponsored her for membership or say the rec was information only meaning I did not know the PNM. I knew her, I just didn't want to thrust her on to the old gang. So I tore it up. But I've wondered several time since then if I should have sent something that would forewarn them. It's not too late but I'm still torn. Maybe Regina George is the flavor of the month and the chapter wouldn't mind having her but I shudder to think.

There is a check box on my organization's rec form that says: "I do not recommend this woman for membership."

Comes in handy when Regina George decides to rush.

ZetaGirl22 · #83 09-12-2008, 02:36 AM

I have never had to "no rec" someone as an alumna, but I DID have to have a talk with our Membership Adviser about a couple of PNMs when I was a collegian. We this group of freshman women coming through that I had met from participating in homecoming week festivities with XY fraternity. They called themselves the "XY sluts" (FOR REAL)!!!!!!!! (And they weren't lying when they said that) And I had seen them taking/being under the influence of street drugs........this was the HEIGHT of the rave craze at this time. As soon as I noticed they were going through, I had a nice long talk with our membership adviser and they were released.

33girl · #84 09-12-2008, 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted by ZetaGirl22

the HEIGHT of the rave craze

SWTXBelle · #85 09-12-2008, 01:41 PM

I was unhappy that I didn't get to no-rec a former student who went to Ole Miss . . . am still dying to know if she pledged or not. I certainly would not wish this delightful girl on ANY of the fine chapters at Ole Miss. If I knew then what I knew now, it would not have been a question.