Reality Check

[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by OTW

If she's a 4th year senior, I find it hard to believe that she would not know anyone on her campus who could point her in the right direction to solicit recs.

Not only that, she did mention that she's read and gained a lot of answers just by reading GC, so she'd (hopefully) know that having resources like the Alum Panhellenic in her area/nearby may help.

Culture or not, if you want something badly, you do whatever you can to get it and you don't use being Hispanic as an excuse not to do it.

Yeah that's true too.

I'd wonder why she waited three years before deciding to rush.

[texas*princess]

I'm hispanic... and I also know some other hispanic women who chose to rush, but they didn't use their ethnicity as a reason for not having recs.

Also, you're a 4th year senior? How much time do you have left in school?

If you are at a competitive Texas school, I don't know many chapters would take you because many chapters have minimium GPA's well above the minimum to rush....even if seniors don't count towards quota.

My advice is to concentrate on your school so you can graduate with a better GPA.

Just being honest.

[TexasCutie86]

Originally Posted by OTW

If she's a 4th year senior, I find it hard to believe that she would not know anyone on her campus who could point her in the right direction to solicit recs.
Not only that, she did mention that she's read and gained a lot of answers just by reading GC, so she'd (hopefully) know that having resources like the Alum Panhellenic in her area/nearby may help.
Culture or not, if you want something badly, you do whatever you can to get it and you don't use being Hispanic as an excuse not to do it.

See the thing is that I just discovered this website about three weeks ago. After reading and learning about recs, I checked my local Alum Panhellenic but by then the deadline had passed. Since I was over two months late, I figured that there was no chance of getting someone to write me a rec so close to rush.

Originally Posted by BabyPiNK_FL

Well, I understand what she means in the sense that because of her culture, finding someone you know personally who is NPC greek may be down right impossible. And the concept of approaching people you do not know and vice versa to recommend you for something like this sounds odd.

Thanks BabyPink for understanding. I grew up in a part of town where everyone I knew (family, friends, neighbors, acquaintances) was either an illegal immigrant or a first generation American. Most of them barely graduated from high school and very few made it pass that. Back in high school my main goal was to graduate from high school and go to college. I don’t think I ever thought about joining a sorority until I came to college and started meeting sorority girls in my classes. From what I've seen, the Hispanic culture doesn't really consider that a priority.

Originally Posted by Senusret I

I'd wonder why she waited three years before deciding to rush.

The reason why I waited so long to rush is simply this: I didn't care for it. It wasn't a concern for me so I paid no attention to it. It wasn't until last year that I became interested but by then I had missed the deadline. And it wasn't until I found this website that I realized how competitive it is at my school. I really wished I had discovered this website last year so that I would've prepared myself better for this year.

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by TexasCutie86

Thanks BabyPink for understanding. I grew up in a part of town where everyone I knew (family, friends, neighbors, acquaintances) was either an illegal immigrant or a first generation American. Most of them barely graduated from high school and very few made it pass that. Back in high school my main goal was to graduate from high school and go to college. I don’t think I ever thought about joining a sorority until I came to college and started meeting sorority girls in my classes. From what I've seen, the Hispanic culture doesn't really consider that a priority.

Please stop blaming things on the Hispanic culture.

I grew up in S. Texas, which by the way, is almost ALL hispanic. And guess what? Several of my high school friends ended up in NPC/Multicultural/Latin/NPHC sororities.

[TexasCutie86]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

Please stop blaming things on the Hispanic culture.

I grew up in S. Texas, which by the way, is almost ALL hispanic. And guess what? Several of my high school friends ended up in NPC/Multicultural/Latin/NPHC sororities.

I'm not blaming the fact of not having recs on being Hispanic. All I'm trying to do is explain my circumstances on why I don't have recs. You may not agree with me, but being Hispanic did put me at a slight disadvantage. I was not aware of sororities until I got to college. Because of that, I didn't prepare properly. Of course the main reason why I don't have recs is because I really didn't know anything about Greek recruitment and I waited too long to get interested. I supposed I should've emphasized that more in my other posts.

[texas*princess]

Well instead of hemming & hawing on an internet message board about not knowing about sororities until you were a senior in college, maybe you should go out there and get recs if rushing is what you want to do.

[Lightning Bug!]

Sorry if my post re: service fraternities wasn't clear (which it wasn't). I was in both a social sorority and a service fraternity. Both took up a lot of time. The difference *for me* (and I'm sure we all had different experiences) was that my service fraternity was glad to take on seniors, because in spite of the fact that we did form good friendships, when it came to service, help is help is help. In the social sorority, we were happy to take on juniors, but with seniors, we had a bit of hesitance, since the focus was so much on sisterhood...we'd be getting to know her just as she was on her way out! I'm not saying it's logical (after all, senior sisters vote on PNMs who are coming in just as they, the seniors, are leaving), I'm just saying that if she is looking for some sort of fraternal bonding, a service fraternity might be very happy to take her on, regardless of her standing, whereas most social sororities are going to prefer younger members in part because there will be more time to bond.