Rec question

VandalSquirrel · #1 08-07-2008, 08:24 PM

Read her recruitment story, she claims to be a legacy to Alpha Phi because her sister in law is a member. Just because a rec is written doesn't mean that a) it is a favorable one b) they received it or care what the alumna thinks or c) that even if there's a good one, it can be canceled out by a NO REC.

The grammar and spelling, not so impressive, neither are the pictures of them in bras at a serenade.

KSUViolet06 · #2 08-07-2008, 08:26 PM

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Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

Read her recruitment story, she claims to be a legacy to Alpha Phi because her sister in law is a member.

That's pretty funny.

I can't think of a sorority that counts sisters-in-law as legacies.

dgdramadawg · #3 08-07-2008, 09:20 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

That's pretty funny.

I can't think of a sorority that counts sisters-in-law as legacies.

Semi-Off Topic: Do any sororities count in-laws as an influence of any kind, like on the level of a cousin or something? Obviously they're not legacies.

Back to the girl's website: She seems to know very little about what she's talking about, like, to the point that I have to wonder if she is actually in a sorority at all. I mean, in her rush story she has a photo of a group of people and comments disdainfully that she would have had people like them as friends were she not in a sorority.

I hate that people are getting rush advice from blogs like that.

breathesgelatin · #4 08-08-2008, 02:14 AM

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Originally Posted by dgdramadawg

Semi-Off Topic: Do any sororities count in-laws as an influence of any kind, like on the level of a cousin or something? Obviously they're not legacies.

I can think of some instances where the sister-in-law thing might count for something or get you noticed. For example if the sister-in-law were advisor to the chapter or a national officer, or an alum who'd given a lot of money to the chapter.

I've seen a lot of cases from my own experience where there is a senior in a sorority seriously dating or engaged to a guy, and then his little sister comes to the university and joins the girlfriend/fiancee's chapter.

Those are the only instances I could think of where it would matter. I guess you could always bring it up in recruitment conversations "oh my sister in law was an XYZ and she talks about her great experiences and it got me interested in Greek life and XYZ."

But yeah, not a legacy.

fantASTic · #5 08-13-2008, 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by sororityblogger

Hello everyone! It's me... the "brat" from www.sororitysecrets.wordpress.com. I have read the thread regarding my blog and just wanted to respond to all of the criticisms and concerns.

1. I am a real person in a real sorority. All of those pictures you see of girls? Yes they are mine taken from my camera. The other pictures on the site are taken from google images and are linked to accordingly. So please relax on the picture swiping talk... it sort of hurts my feelings.

2. I deleted the page about the recommendations and legacies and all that business. I am certain that what I wrote on that page is the protocol at my particular university but I never realized so many people would freak out over getting information that was different from their own. My apologies. I write this blog only to help. Also, why would I waste my time writing about a sorority if I weren't in one?

3. I appreciate all of your concerns so please feel free to email me directly or post comments on my blog. If I am misinformed about something... enlighten me! I am more than happy to hear your feedback directly on my blog... not on some forum. Your information is important to me.

4. I wrote this on my blog a number of times but I shall reiterate it once again. I am writing this blog as a member of a sorority- not an adviser or rush coach or anything like that. I love giving advice to my friends at home on college and rush and life in general so I figured... why not blog about it? I write this blog as if i were giving this advice to my little sister.. so please please keep this in mind when reading. Thanks so much. I hope everyone is still as excited for rush as I am!! YAY!

Just wanted to quote this, seeing as you're editing right now.

VandalSquirrel · #6 08-13-2008, 03:33 PM

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Just wanted to quote this, seeing as you're editing right now.

If you didn't QFP I'd never have known she had been here as it has been BALEETED!

#7 08-13-2008, 04:48 PM

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Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

If you didn't QFP I'd never have known she had been here as it has been BALEETED!

Banned as well.

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So, in between pretending to work, getting my virtual butt kicked, and breakfast, I have had little time to ponder what I am going to write about today. I’m glad that some of you enjoyed the post from yesterday. Rushing is super duper important and all, but at the end of the day aren’t we going to college to learn? Today I am feeling a little… crestfallen (if you will) about some of the smack talking going on but I will persevere and continue to post.

Aww. Poor baby.

jwright25 · #8 08-13-2008, 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by fantASTic

Just wanted to quote this, seeing as you're editing right now.

You are gooooooood!

fantASTic · #9 08-13-2008, 07:03 PM

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You are gooooooood!

I do my best.

VandalSquirrel · #10 08-13-2008, 08:08 PM

I would like to go on the record as saying, yes I think that site was full of misinformation, but I and many other happily give out information that is appropriate and correct, and when we're wrong, we graciously admit it and let those who know better speak.

I'd like to thank the PNMs who are classy and appreciative of how GC works and are humble and gracious, and perhaps you need to learn from their example serial blogger.

aphiclauds · #11 08-17-2008, 02:18 PM

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Originally Posted by dgdramadawg

Semi-Off Topic: Do any sororities count in-laws as an influence of any kind, like on the level of a cousin or something? Obviously they're not legacies.

Back to the girl's website: She seems to know very little about what she's talking about, like, to the point that I have to wonder if she is actually in a sorority at all. I mean, in her rush story she has a photo of a group of people and comments disdainfully that she would have had people like them as friends were she not in a sorority.

I hate that people are getting rush advice from blogs like that.

We have two types of recommendation forms. A legacy rec and a general rec form. Nither of them are an automatic invite, we just look closer at the member and its just another way to know a little more info about them. I think as a good rule of thumb in life- you can never have enough recommendations and people saying good things about you.

#12 08-07-2008, 08:28 PM

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Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

Read her recruitment story, she claims to be a legacy to Alpha Phi because her sister in law is a member. Just because a rec is written doesn't mean that a) it is a favorable one b) they received it or care what the alumna thinks or c) that even if there's a good one, it can be canceled out by a NO REC.

The grammar and spelling, not so impressive, neither are the pictures of them in bras at a serenade.

I don't think this person is even legit. I think this blog's author swiped a bunch of pictures of pretty people off the internet and attempted to write something she thought she knew about.

VandalSquirrel · #13 08-07-2008, 08:45 PM

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I don't think this person is even legit. I think this blog's author swiped a bunch of pictures of pretty people off the internet and attempted to write something she thought she knew about.

I think that should be a warning to people who take pictures and post them online. You can't control it once you put it out there, and even if it was meant to be private or a joke, it will likely not work out that way.

It is blogs like these that can actually hurt some unsuspecting but completely worthy girl in recruitment. The information is mostly incorrect, the terminology is incorrect, and I hope she isn't a creative writing or journalism major.

Who gives it 24 hours for the blog owner, or an anonymous person here saying we're mean and defending it to show up?

#14 08-07-2008, 09:22 PM

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Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel

I think that should be a warning to people who take pictures and post them online. You can't control it once you put it out there, and even if it was meant to be private or a joke, it will likely not work out that way.

It is blogs like these that can actually hurt some unsuspecting but completely worthy girl in recruitment. The information is mostly incorrect, the terminology is incorrect, and I hope she isn't a creative writing or journalism major.

Who gives it 24 hours for the blog owner, or an anonymous person here saying we're mean and defending it to show up?

I tried posting a comment or two correcting her, but the comment's "in moderation" -- I get the feeling she won't allow anything on, especially the ones that criticize her blog.