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Old 06-30-2008, 02:42 PM
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Which do you want more... a "marriage" starting this September, or a "wedding" next September.
I think that's the perfect way to put it. Sometimes in life things don't turn out exactly how we dreamed, or we have to make choices that change those dreams.

Do you want a happy marriage that will last the rest of your life? Or is it more important to have one big day where you're the center of attention and get presents? And the wedding isn't just about the bride, its about BOTH people, and their families.

If you want to get married then have a reception to celebrate your vows, have your marriage blessed by a priest or whatever religious figure, etc. down the road, at least be honest about it. But whatever it is, it just is not the BWW that you want to have here. But the marriage is what counts, right?
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Old 06-30-2008, 04:36 PM
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I think that's the perfect way to put it. Sometimes in life things don't turn out exactly how we dreamed, or we have to make choices that change those dreams.
This is a good point. I've dated military men before, and some of my friends (who were dating them back when I was dating my ex) did go on to get engaged to military men and plan big traditional weddings, only to find out that the military had other plans for them (deployment). Some of them had to scrap their wedding plans and get married in court within 2 weeks for the same reasons. Were they a little bummed out that they didn't get to have a big shindig? Yes. Are they still just as married as anyone else? Yes. That's really the important thing in the end, you're married, and you're happy.
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Old 06-30-2008, 05:12 PM
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And bear in mind - the kind of people who would be snarky about a blessing, or church wedding, or celebration after the smaller, legal ceremony are NOT those you would want there anyway. So your BWW might be smaller than you originally thought - but I'd rather have a smaller group who loved me than tons of people who are so small-minded that they would try to steal your joy.
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This is a good point. I've dated military men before, and some of my friends (who were dating them back when I was dating my ex) did go on to get engaged to military men and plan big traditional weddings, only to find out that the military had other plans for them (deployment). Some of them had to scrap their wedding plans and get married in court within 2 weeks for the same reasons. Were they a little bummed out that they didn't get to have a big shindig? Yes. Are they still just as married as anyone else? Yes. That's really the important thing in the end, you're married, and you're happy.
Agreed. Thank you!
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