Bridesmaid question

christiangirl · #1 06-24-2008, 04:55 PM

^^Thanks. I don't always catch things right away--I was like "Is she mad at me and I just didn't know? How much of an insult is this??" Lol I'm good now. It didn't bother me too much, I was just confused. It was like I was almost hurt, but not really.

I'm just stoked that this wedding is right after midterms next year so I have a legit excuse to fly home for a week in the middle of the semester!!!

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Originally Posted by Munchkin03

...including any cute and single male guests.

SEE, this is why I came to GC. I knew SOMEONE would find me a silver lining!!!!!

AlphaFrog · #2 06-24-2008, 07:29 PM

My best friend told me over and over that she wished I lived in the same city as her so that I could be her maid of honor...maybe she'd pick dresses from David's Bridal so I could pick one up down in Charlotte (or at least try it on so she could order it up North), etc, etc. I was kinda hurt that she never actually asked me. At the wedding, though, she said she knew that I was already taking time off of work, buying a plane ticket, etc so she didn't want to give me the option of adding to what I was already spending because she knew with a new(er) baby, I just didn't have that kind of money to blow. I really appreciated that.

catiebug · #3 06-27-2008, 09:26 AM

Pics please!!!

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Originally Posted by Ronald Jeremy

Wow! You live in Charlotte NC? Small world. I have a home there. Maybe we can get together and have a few drinks. My treat.

christiangirl · #4 08-10-2009, 03:12 AM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

"Is she mad at me and I just didn't know?"

I thought I'd bump my own thread since there's an update on this. Well, it's been a year and the wedding is over...and, as of tonight, so is our friendship. Over the last year, my so-called "friend" has been getting meaner and ruder, snapping at me and picking fights over small things. Well, we finally just had it out and she 'fessed up about the BM thing. Just after she got engaged, I pulled her aside and asked her if she was sure this guy was "the one." He was really nice but they hadn't been together very long and I hoped she wasn't rushing the decision. But she insisted they were very much in love and I let it go. I had my doubts, but I was totally on board. But that time I pulled her aside and asked if she was sure pissed her off apparently. That's the real reason she kicked me out of her wedding--she didn't want anyone who "didn't believe in their relationship" to be in it.

ETA: *****from this point on I'm pretty much just venting******
This is so rich. I came to her as a concerned friend because this was a HUGE decision and I wanted her to be happy and because of that I don't "believe in her?" WHATEVER. The girls she chose have been talking behind her back ever since he proposed. They said those two would never even make it to the wedding day and, if they did, it'd only end in divorce anyway. I refused to backbite and instead, caringly brought my concerns to her and I got kicked out of the wedding party. How could she say I'm not happy for her? Even without being a BM, I flew cross-country, took time off school and work so that I could work like a freaking slave setting up the banquet hall, arranging table numbers and centerpieces, with fussy old ladies from church up my butt about the tablecloths not being perfectly straight while the two-faced little brats who talked about her for MONTHS got to put on their fancy dresses and their professionally-done make up and be pampered and photographed all damn day. Then I had to deal with the "Aren't you her best friend? Why aren't you in the wedding party, too? Why are you at the table all the way in the back?" questions all day long. And I did it graciously because I was just so exhilarated to be seeing my "sister" get married. She never told me the real reason but now that she's ended our friendship, she figured she could tell me the truth. Well, Thank God I didn't have to spend anymore money than I already did. You did me a huge favor. GOOD RIDDANCE and I hope you have a fabulous life with all the great "friends" who don't ever say what they're thinking until your back is turned. Good luck with that.

Ugh, this feels like a nightmare out of Gossip Girl. Best friends for almost 10 years. I can't believe it's really over. This hurts.

KSUViolet06 · #5 08-10-2009, 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

I thought I'd bump my own thread since there's an update on this. Well, it's been a year and the wedding is over...and, as of tonight, so is our friendship. Over the last year, my so-called "friend" has been getting meaner and ruder, snapping at me and picking fights over small things. Well, we finally just had it out and she 'fessed up about the BM thing. Just after she got engaged, I pulled her aside and asked her if she was sure this guy was "the one." He was really nice but they hadn't been together very long and I hoped she wasn't rushing the decision. But she insisted they were very much in love and I let it go. I had my doubts, but I was totally on board. But that time I pulled her aside and asked if she was sure pissed her off apparently. That's the real reason she kicked me out of her wedding--she didn't want anyone who "didn't believe in their relationship" to be in it.

ETA: *****from this point on I'm pretty much just venting******
This is so rich. I came to her as a concerned friend because this was a HUGE decision and I wanted her to be happy and because of that I don't "believe in her?" WHATEVER. The girls she chose have been talking behind her back ever since he proposed. They said those two would never even make it to the wedding day and, if they did, it'd only end in divorce anyway. I refused to backbite and instead, caringly brought my concerns to her and I got kicked out of the wedding party. How could she say I'm not happy for her? Even without being a BM, I flew cross-country, took time off school and work so that I could work like a freaking slave setting up the banquet hall, arranging table numbers and centerpieces, with fussy old ladies from church up my butt about the tablecloths not being perfectly straight while the two-faced little brats who talked about her for MONTHS got to put on their fancy dresses and their professionally-done make up and be pampered and photographed all damn day. Then I had to deal with the "Aren't you her best friend? Why aren't you in the wedding party, too? Why are you at the table all the way in the back?" questions all day long. And I did it graciously because I was just so exhilarated to be seeing my "sister" get married. She never told me the real reason but now that she's ended our friendship, she figured she could tell me the truth. Well, Thank God I didn't have to spend anymore money than I already did. You did me a huge favor. GOOD RIDDANCE and I hope you have a fabulous life with all the great "friends" who don't ever say what they're thinking until your back is turned. Good luck with that.

Ugh, this feels like a nightmare out of Gossip Girl. Best friends for almost 10 years. I can't believe it's really over. This hurts.

Oh man. I'm sorry.

This sounds like alot of drama.

BlueCarnation · #6 08-10-2009, 05:58 PM

Ugh. What a nightmare! I was a bridesmaid of a close friend (pledge sister) and we are no longer friends b/c she was a bridezilla. At least you didn't have to pay for a horrendous eggplant dress though!

Seriously, though, I'm sorry. That sucks.