lonely and depressed...

christiangirl · #1 06-23-2008, 07:37 PM

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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Welp, personally, you are not old enough to be that leacherous, but basicallly are you asking us, the GC, should you pursue a "Fcuk Buddy"? Cuz that's what it sounds that's what you would like... LOL.

In a word...almost.

Allow me to explain: I have another friend who happens to be one of only 2 male virgins I ever met in college. We developed a new sort of buddy--the "virgin's version" if you will. This "buddy" is so defined as someone of the opposite sex who is the person you dial when it's the middle of the night and you suddenly realize how lonely you are (and feeling pathetic for being so) and just want someone to cuddle with you as you fall asleep so you don't feel so alone in the world. You might kiss, not because you're attracted to each other, but because heck you feel like kissin' someone tonight. There's no sex involved and you don't want there to be. But having someone who comes over in the middle of the night and keeps a toothbrush at your place gives the illusion that you are no longer "missing out" but in reality you spent the night with a friend doing nothing to write home about. I would have enjoyed that a year ago, but now I want to stick to traditional dating. I see now that it was a good concept in theory but...

Well, I realized this is NOT a good idea. It's extremely hard for me to keep my hands to myself. We haven't played with that fire again.

AKA_Monet · #2 06-23-2008, 07:53 PM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

In a word...almost.

Allow me to explain: I have another friend who happens to be one of only 2 male virgins I ever met in college. We developed a new sort of buddy--the "virgin's version" if you will. This "buddy" is so defined as someone of the opposite sex who is the person you dial when it's the middle of the night and you suddenly realize how lonely you are (and feeling pathetic for being so) and just want someone to cuddle with you as you fall asleep so you don't feel so alone in the world. You might kiss, not because you're attracted to each other, but because heck you feel like kissin' someone tonight. There's no sex involved and you don't want there to be. But having someone who comes over in the middle of the night and keeps a toothbrush at your place gives the illusion that you are no longer "missing out" but in reality you spent the night with a friend doing nothing to write home about. I would have enjoyed that a year ago, but now I want to stick to traditional dating. I see now that it was a good concept in theory but...

Well, I realized this is NOT a good idea. It's extremely hard for me to keep my hands to myself. We haven't played with that fire again.

Well hunny, a gentleman rarely puts a woman--who might be the object of his affection--into compromising positions...

Corollary: A dog always has flies and let sleeping dogs lie...

You want a "virginal buddy"--most of your "boyfriends" are going to stop playing that mess, right now. Hey, can't buy a dildo or vibrator and a fake warming pillow of a man? It will NEVER cheat on you, and if it stops working, you just change the batteries...

Really, you ain't got no playa cards. And to play this game, there is is a high stakes ante, and you have to ante up. The name of this game is called 5 card stud and the joker is always wild... If you not ready to play this game, don't start and move on...

christiangirl · #3 06-23-2008, 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Hey, can't buy a dildo or vibrator and a fake warming pillow of a man? It will NEVER cheat on you, and if it stops working, you just change the batteries...

YOU. ARE. FIRED.

Lol, touche Monet. Touche.

AKA_Monet · #4 06-23-2008, 08:19 PM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

YOU. ARE. FIRED.

Lol, touche Monet. Touche.

Whut?

AlwaysSAI · #5 06-23-2008, 11:16 PM

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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

You want a "virginal buddy"--most of your "boyfriends" are going to stop playing that mess, right now. Hey, can't buy a dildo or vibrator and a fake warming pillow of a man? It will NEVER cheat on you, and if it stops working, you just change the batteries...

Monet, I love you. You are me in ten years.

And, I second the sentiment, btw.

pbear19 · #6 06-23-2008, 11:33 PM

Regarding marriage at 23, I have to comment because I got married at 23.

But, I never planned to get married at that age. It just worked out that I met my ideal man and there wasn't much point in putting it off.

We've been married 7 years now, and we do not have kids. That's one thing that I knew wasn't going to happen right away. I still don't know when we'll have kid(s), but I know I'm a lot more ready now than I was 7 years ago. And, I'm so happy that we have had all these wonderful years just the two of us.

I would never advise someone to get married young, but if you've found the right person you know it, and there is nothing wrong with changing your plans to accomodate a change in situation. The bottom line is no one has any business being married until the time is right, and 'the time' varies from one individual to another, and completely depends on when you meet the right person to get married to. It doesn't work out for everyone, but I have no regrets at all.