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[smc112]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

When it comes to relationships, I think a lot of times people too often become consumed with the emotion of "romance", and very quickly after marriage, we find that the romance evaporates to reveal two very flawed jokers in a difficult world

I think what happens from the beginning in these relationships today, is people are quick to fall into romance, and then later, quick to bail out of commitment.

You have to ask yourself, is the man (I'm assuming you're a woman.) to whom you are attracted quick to give to others, or quick to go the 2nd mile in serving others? Or does this joker seem to live only for himself, withdraw the needs of others, or pretty much seek to satisfy himself only? A selfish, "do for me and don't ask me to do for you" joker is not someone you'll be happy with long term.

I hope you find the right man, if you haven't already.

In your first comment, that is exactly what happens when people are "lusting" after each other. When the spirit of lust leaves, people then start to realize that they don't have anything in common with the other individual. That is why I feel people should at least date two years before they marry. That way people will know if it is lust or actually love. Two years is a long enough time to see all sides of an individual. You also mentioned that a woman should seek after a man who has a servant's heart. It is funny that you mentioned that, because I dated a guy who was selfish and not a giver (or you could say cheap!) Two bad combinations! I didn't talk to him no longer than a couple of weeks. That really irritated me. Yeah, I would run for the hills if I sensed that a guy was selfish and cheap. Even Proverbs mentions not to eat the food of a cheap man because he is always thinking about the cost. LOL Anyway, a selfish person always takes and doesn't deposit anything back. You are right. I wasn't happy with that guy who was selfish, and I know from now on to watch those signs in men.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by smc112

In your first comment, that is exactly what happens when people are "lusting" after each other. When the spirit of lust leaves, people then start to realize that they don't have anything in common with the other individual. That is why I feel people should at least date two years before they marry. That way people will know if it is lust or actually love. Two years is a long enough time to see all sides of an individual. You also mentioned that a woman should seek after a man who has a servant's heart. It is funny that you mentioned that, because I dated a guy who was selfish and not a giver (or you could say cheap!) Two bad combinations! I didn't talk to him no longer than a couple of weeks. That really irritated me. Yeah, I would run for the hills if I sensed that a guy was selfish and cheap. Even Proverbs mentions not to eat the food of a cheap man because he is always thinking about the cost. LOL Anyway, a selfish person always takes and doesn't deposit anything back. You are right. I wasn't happy with that guy who was selfish, and I know from now on to watch those signs in men.

LOL at the cheap joker you were talking about. I'll have to read that one in Proverbs. That's hilarious but true.

I agree with what you said about the lust thing. To me, lust is like a fire. If you want to start a lasting fire, you're going to need some kindling, lighter fluid and firewood. If you have only the kindling and lighter fluid, which is like physical attraction and flat out sex, you'll be able to produce a big blaze of fire. The problem is, it may be warm and feel good temporarily, but the fire will go out in a matter of seconds or minutes. Just like it does when jokers start sleeping around.

I mentioned this in another thread. There's intensity and intimacy. People seem to get them confused. They're different. Intensity starts to fade away as the newness of the relationship wears off, but intimacy continues to grow more and more the longer you know a person. Like you said, intimacy is seeing what's truly on the inside of a person, which like you said, can only be discovered face to face over long periods of time.

To build a really good fire, you need some serious firewood to place on top of the kindling and lighter fluid. Do that, and it will burn for a long time. IMO, that's how a strong relationship should be. Long term.

Also, when you get a chance, check out Matthew 7:12. That's a good one.

Happy dating.

[smc112]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Also, when you get a chance, check out Matthew 7:12. That's a good one.

Happy dating.

Actually, the verse 11 was confirmation for me today. Thanks for the advice and Happy Dating to you also! Or are you married?

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by smc112

Actually, the verse 11 was confirmation for me today. Thanks for the advice and Happy Dating to you also! Or are you married?

I'm glad it helped.

LOL
Nope, I'm not married.