Disaffiliation

[greekgirl88]

Oh, those weren't my experiences. My experience was that the sorority was just a waste of time and money. We didn't do anything. And I wasn't trying to get into another sorority at the time.

[icelandelf]

Originally Posted by greekgirl88

Oh, those weren't my experiences. My experience was that the sorority was just a waste of time and money. We didn't do anything. And I wasn't trying to get into another sorority at the time.

What are your plans now that you have resigned your sorority?

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by greekgirl88

Oh, those weren't my experiences. My experience was that the sorority was just a waste of time and money. We didn't do anything. And I wasn't trying to get into another sorority at the time.

But you sound like such a catch.

Seriously, if for some reason you matched with a group that wasn't worth it and you stuck with it through initiation and then disaffiliated [ETA: resigned membership]and went around telling people how lame and "not worth it" the group was, why would you assume that you'd even get a bid to a "better" and more "worth it" group? You seem like kind of a bad risk, frankly.

[PeppyGPhiB]

I'd just like to say that I think it's misleading to refer to this type of situation as "disaffiliation" or "disaffiliated." It may be technically correct, but "disaffiliation" is something recruitment counselors do to temporarily disassociate themselves from their sorority in order to serve in a neutral role during formal recruitment. The situations described in this thread should really be referred to as "termination of membership" or "resignation" which is obviously permanent.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by greekgirl88

Oh, those weren't my experiences. My experience was that the sorority was just a waste of time and money. We didn't do anything. And I wasn't trying to get into another sorority at the time.

Then why were all your other posts asking about refs for KKG, if you were already told that you couldn't initiate into another sorority? That was rude to the KKGs on here who took time to answer your questions.

[ISUKappa]

Originally Posted by greekgirl88

That's true, but that's just the word that the officers of my chapter used. I like resignation much better.

Many members use disaffiliate incorrectly. I believe most organizations prefer the term "Resign Membership."

Originally Posted by 33girl

Then why were all your other posts asking about refs for KKG, if you were already told that you couldn't initiate into another sorority? That was rude to the KKGs on here who took time to answer your questions.

Yeah, I had no idea she had already been initiated. Now I'm rather glad she had been.

[AlwaysSAI]

Originally Posted by greekgirl88

Oh, those weren't my experiences. My experience was that the sorority was just a waste of time and money. We didn't do anything. And I wasn't trying to get into another sorority at the time.

haha. I love when people say this because it's such crap. When I joined SAI, my chapter had just come back from a really tough time. We didn't do much. Were not affiliated with the school, didn't have chapter or inter-greek socials.

GUESS WHAT I DID TO CHANGE IT. I got on Exec, nominated a sister for a province award, nominated my chapter for two awards from the university, helped plan an inter-greek formal, pushed for inter-greek socials, made sure every sister had a copy of the yearbook directory, submitted a excerpt for each issue of Tempo!, helped plan and participated in numerous service projects, and planned and coordinated our first chapter composite since 2005, and that was all in one year.

My chapter maintained our affiliation with the university for the first full year since we were chartered. And, we won that award from the university--"Overall Excellence in Community Service". We beat out 3 D9s, two NPCs, and a few other well established campus orgs.

Being greek isn't about what the chapter can do for you. It's about what you can do to change the chapter and make it better.

[Jimmy Choo]

Originally Posted by AlwaysSAI

haha. I love when people say this because it's such crap. When I joined SAI, my chapter had just come back from a really tough time. We didn't do much. Were not affiliated with the school, didn't have chapter or inter-greek socials.

GUESS WHAT I DID TO CHANGE IT. I got on Exec, nominated a sister for a province award, nominated my chapter for two awards from the university, helped plan an inter-greek formal, pushed for inter-greek socials, made sure every sister had a copy of the yearbook directory, submitted a excerpt for each issue of Tempo!, helped plan and participated in numerous service projects, and planned and coordinated our first chapter composite since 2005, and that was all in one year.

My chapter maintained our affiliation with the university for the first full year since we were chartered. And, we won that award from the university--"Overall Excellence in Community Service". We beat out 3 D9s, two NPCs, and a few other well established campus orgs.

Being greek isn't about what the chapter can do for you. It's about what you can do to change the chapter and make it better.

I just thought this was awesome and deserved quoting. And some kudos!

[AlphaXi_Husky]

Originally Posted by Jimmy Choo

I just thought this was awesome and deserved quoting. And some kudos!

Agreed. Big ole kudos for putting in the work!

[AlwaysSAI]

Originally Posted by Jimmy Choo

I just thought this was awesome and deserved quoting. And some kudos!

Originally Posted by AlphaXi_Husky

Agreed. Big ole kudos for putting in the work!

Hey! Thanks guys! My and my lil were just talking today about how our chapter was on the brink of greatness. We have come so far this year and it's not just because of me. Other people put in hours too.


It was hard work. But, it has been so worth it just to see my chapter improve and gain the reputation we have today!

[greekgirl88]

You sound really rude.

Why would you keep on doing something that you don't enjoy at all? That's just stupid. And I'm not going around telling people what group it is, so what does it matter if I share my personal experiences. I figure it would help someone understand my situation better so maybe they could help me. I was exteremly commited to my chapter until they let ME down.

And I wanted to get into another NPC sorority that would do something. However, now that I'm being told it's not possible, I just get into hopeful one or two service sororities.

[PeppyGPhiB]

Originally Posted by greekgirl88

Why would you keep on doing something that you don't enjoy at all? That's just stupid.

I believe that was her point, dear.

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by greekgirl88

You sound really rude.

Why would you keep on doing something that you don't enjoy at all? That's just stupid. And I'm not going around telling people what group it is, so what does it matter if I share my personal experiences. I figure it would help someone understand my situation better so maybe they could help me. I was exteremly commited to my chapter until they let ME down.

And I wanted to get into another NPC sorority that would do something. However, now that I'm being told it's not possible, I just get into hopeful one or two service sororities.

Good luck. Certainly, a service group should welcome your interest in doing more and probably can't let you down.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by greekgirl88

You sound really rude.

Why would you keep on doing something that you don't enjoy at all? That's just stupid. And I'm not going around telling people what group it is, so what does it matter if I share my personal experiences. I figure it would help someone understand my situation better so maybe they could help me. I was exteremly commited to my chapter until they let ME down.

And I wanted to get into another NPC sorority that would do something. However, now that I'm being told it's not possible, I just get into hopeful one or two service sororities.

I colored that last sentence for posterity.

I sure hope that it's not my sorority, because membership is not for those who are disgruntled by a social sorority who they pledged AND INITIATED INTO, and who waited until after taking her oaths to follow the ideals and missions set before her to decide it's not good enough for her.

Gamma Sigma Sigma is a place for those who wish to promise and uphold the ideals of friendship, service and equality. Our sisterhood is founded upon the mission of SERVICE TO HUMANITY.

In this vein, to paraphrase JFK, ask not what your sorority can do for you, but what you can do for your sorority. You have proven that you didn't want to give back because it wasn't giving you what you had expected or wanted.

Just because our membership is open to anyone who fulfills the requirements does not mean that everyone who starts out pledging (Membership in Training) will get initiated. The training period is time where you demonstrate your commitment to service on campus, in the community, and your fellow man/woman. In other words, you have to put the work in to become a member.

If anyone finds this reply defensive, I only mean it out of respect as to why Gamma Sigma Sigma exists and thrives today. It's only because too many people take for granted Gamma Sig's existence. In fact, those who enter membership with intentions such as the OP stated, probably won't make it far enough to become a member. We aren't for people who didn't find a fit in a social or other sorority. We have a unique purpose for which we are sought out.

I might add that several of our founders also belonged to social (NPC) sororities, and that dual membership is nothing to be frowned upon. The more, the merrier. But only if your heart is in it.

[greekgirl88]

That's true, but that's just the word that the officers of my chapter used. I like resignation much better.