Rushing lonely

[kath888]

i'm not in a sorority yet so having not been through the other side of rush, i don't know if my advice is the best, but i feel like it would be better to just "suck it up and try and show everyone how sweet you really are" instead of mentioning the disorder. It might seem like you are looking for pity or make people feel awkward, not that you are at all, but a lot of people just don't really understand things like social anxiety disorder (same goes for depression, eating disorders, anything like that if you know what i mean). good luck!

[nate2512]

Originally Posted by kath888

i'm not in a sorority yet so having not been through the other side of rush, i don't know if my advice is the best, but i feel like it would be better to just "suck it up and try and show everyone how sweet you really are" instead of mentioning the disorder. It might seem like you are looking for pity or make people feel awkward, not that you are at all, but a lot of people just don't really understand things like social anxiety disorder (same goes for depression, eating disorders, anything like that if you know what i mean). good luck!

I think that you should let girls in sororities handle this one. Not to say that you are certainly wrong, but they have to deal with all kinds of things and would be better apt to answer this question, I appreciate your willingness but this isn't something to be taken lightly and should be given a lot of thought.

So therefore ladies, please help this nice young woman out.

[KSUViolet06]

Coming from an actual sorority member perspective: I don't feel like this is something that you need to tell members during rush. I mean, I just don't see why they need to know about your personal medical diagnosis. Sorority members aren't clincians and they don't know everything that it entails and conversely, what it DOES NOT entail. Telling them may lead them to think things like "she couldn't be a productive member because she's terrified of being in front of people." These things are not neccessarily true of people with SAD, but who knows what girls may conclude when given a medical diagnosis that they're not familiar with.

I would suggest starting some therapy, if you aren't already in some. It will help alot. I'd start now with gradually easing yourself into social situations. Recruitment (for someone who has SAD) is going to be a tough situation. There will be alot of people trying to get to know you. You don't want to go into it "cold" without having eased into being around and making conversation with others. Try going to dinner parties wth friends or barbeques and makng one on one conversations with people there.

Ultimately, it is up to you to decide whether this is something you want to disclose. Best of luck with whatever you decide.