Non participation in NPHC as a D9 member

[pinkies up]

Co-sign. Also, if you don't want to go to somebody's event, don't go. I went to other's events because we were friends outside of our individual sororities. Maybe you should look at what you're giving off in terms of bad vibes. Sometimes it's all about perception and misconceptions.

[rhoyaltempest]

I don't know why you didn't discuss this with a soror or two but anyway you are not the first person to feel this way and you won't be the last. I happen to be in a city (Philly) where the NPHC is very active and supportive of one another but I can tell that if most of the members weren't cool I probably wouldn't want to go to NPHC events either. Fortunately we don't have that problem and I have met great people in the other NPHC orgs. We all attend eachother's programs and buy tickets to eachother's events, which is a win win for everyone! That doesn't mean however that I go to everything but I do understand that if you don't support others, they won't support you.

You don't have to go to everything but if it's important for your chapter's networking ability for you to represent at NPHC events sometimes, then suck it up and do it. Think of it as something you're doing for your org. There are some sorority events I don't want to go to or don't feel like going to, but I go because people are counting on me and sometimes I go to NPHC events, not because I want to go, but because it's important for my chapter to be represented in the community.

[grad]

I was hoping you would respond too RT . . . thank you.

Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

I don't know why you didn't discuss this with a soror or two but anyway you are not the first person to feel this way and you won't be the last.

I haven't because I haven't wanted this crazyness out there. I try very hard to keep my house clean, if you know what I mean. I cleansed my house of crazyness a loooong time ago. With that being said, I just don't want this thing out because in a way, I feel like it's a reflection off me. Does that make sense? But you do make a good point about talking to a sorors. I think I'm the only one who feels this way around here b/c everyone else goes and has a blast . . .

[CrimsonTide4]

Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

I don't know why you didn't discuss this with a soror or two but anyway you are not the first person to feel this way and you won't be the last. I happen to be in a city (Philly) where the NPHC is very active and supportive of one another but I can tell that if most of the members weren't cool I probably wouldn't want to go to NPHC events either. Fortunately we don't have that problem and I have met great people in the other NPHC orgs. We all attend eachother's programs and buy tickets to eachother's events, which is a win win for everyone! That doesn't mean however that I go to everything but I do understand that if you don't support others, they won't support you.

You don't have to go to everything but if it's important for your chapter's networking ability for you to represent at NPHC events sometimes, then suck it up and do it. Think of it as something you're doing for your org. There are some sorority events I don't want to go to or don't feel like going to, but I go because people are counting on me and sometimes I go to NPHC events, not because I want to go, but because it's important for my chapter to be represented in the community.

My Soror KimL (on GC) is like Ms. NPHC in Philly. She knows everybody and from what she says, you all as a city have a great NPHC.