Parents and college orientation

[alum]

Carnegie Mellon sent a hardcopy grade report in the mid-80s (my final year there was only $15K still about triple a public COA) addressed to the student at the end of each semester. My parents didn't open my grades or ask to see them but the expectation was there. I personally felt that I owed it to them since they were making a financial sacrifice).

Only once as a student did I have to get a grade changed and I did it without the help of my parents. It turns out that the professor forgot to weight the grades as outlined on the syllabus. It did ruin my Christmas Break because I didn't understand why I got the reported grade and I couldn't talk to him until I got back in January. Nevertheless, I handled it and the problem was solved. My husband went to West Point. Not only were his parents not paying anything, he was legally an independent adult as a cadet and could not be claimed on their taxes. He still showed them his grades

As I mentioned, there is a form that parents can insist their kids sign to see their kids' grades. It has to be resubmitted annually to the college registrar. I think it's part of FERPA.

I wonder how many kids don't show their parents their grades willingly. Obviously on GC, all the posters of this thread have open relationships with their parents and or kids and this is not an issue.

[KSigkid]

KSigRC could correct me on this if I'm wrong, but I thought Boston U sent hardcopy grade reports to parents. I was paying for most of my tuition that wasn't covered by scholarship, and I think the mailings were still directed to "Mr. and Mrs. __________."

I never really thought about it, to be honest. I could see plenty of cases, though, where a student would not want to tell their parents their grades, and would be justified in withholding that information.