What's with all these invites?

[AKA_Monet]

We have general policy that we send $X for graduation announcements and for weddings from people we nary have seen in a bajillion years, they might get one silverware utensil from their registry, if they have one.

The best gift these days is probably gas cards and costco cards...

[aideclaire]

great idea AKA_MONET

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by Army Wife'79

It just feels like a "shake down" for gifts.

It probably is. There are many like you--people who send gifts even if they don't go and people play up to that. The more announcements go out, the more checks come in. I wouldn't be surprised if that's what that's about. The other option is what my mother did--she was so excited I was graduating (on time at that) that she told the world. My degree=her bragging rights. I paid for those things with my own money and barely got to keep one for myself because, by the time I found out they'd arrived, my mom had addressed and mailed them to Jim, James, Paul, and Tyrone.

[Educatingblue]

I normally only get gifts for XYZ occasion for people who reciprocate. I know I was very disappointed at some people whom I normally "support" that did not bother to come to my wedding or send a gift. It sounds snarky, but I keep that in mind when "they" send stuff out.