Single ladies, how do you respond to "why aren't you married yet?"

[Benzgirl]

We've been through this before

[texas*princess]

I get this question a lot.... I'm 26. I've been getting it pretty much since I graduated 4 years ago.

With me there are a number of different factors that play into my singleness. For one, my job requires me to travel = A LOT = , sometimes for extended periods of time. So as you might imagine, it's hard to meet guys with a schedule like that.

Secondly, I have some pretty high expectations. I am successful & ambitious, and I expect my future husband to be the same, but most of the guys I've met like that are jerks.

Thirdly, I don't date random Joes off the street. I prefer to date guys that are "endorsed" by people I already know.

Lastly, I'm 26... seriously. I'm enjoying life and focusing on my career right now. I don't think I want kids in the future, so really I don't feel like I have a "biological clock" to worry about.

[aephi alum]

I feel your pain, except that in my case the question is, "When are you going to have a baby, already?!"

Good answer to "why aren't you married": "If and when I meet a man with whom I want to spend the rest of my life, then and only then will we get married."

Smartass answer: "I'm a lesbian."

[Dionysus]

Originally Posted by aephi alum

Smartass answer: "I'm a lesbian."

I like "I can't get married in this state". Most people have no idea what you're talking about.

If I got married at my age, I would cheat on someone left and right. I don't see how many young people get married and stay faithful (the ones who do).

[cheerfulgreek]

A friend once told me that the person you marry will determine 90% of your happiness or 90% of your pain. Also, my education is my top priority right now, plus I would just stay single unless I met a guy who was a spiritual leader, faithful, respectful, honest, a good communicator, happy and very loving.

ETA: Oh, and I forgot to add, totally hot too.

[PhoenixAzul]

See, I've kinda gotten this from both corners. Because my fiance and I have dated for 6.5 years and counting, we got the "when ye gettin maaaaaaaaaaaried" from all the matriarchs for pretty much the last 3 years.

Then I tell people here in Scotland that I'm getting married at 23, and the go, "wow, you're so young! Why are you getting married?". Because it's not really a "thing" here to get married young. Yeah people do it, but it isn't like it is back home. Fewer people are getting married period because you've got civil partnership and domestic partnership and etc and you get a lot of the social benefits without having to be married (free healthcare is nation wide (I *heart* the NHS!), couples have an expectation of privacy in communication (although the protection is more solid in the case of marriage) etc.



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