SEX

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

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SydneyK, because of sperm production and other factors, men naturally desire a sexual release about every 3 days or so. Some feel this need as often as every couple of days. Others experience it less. While the frequency of the need varies from man to man, each one has his own sexual cycle in which he experiences these physical desires. We receive sexual gratification through our eyes. We don't need a date, and we don't ever need to wait. We have our eyes, which we can use to take in sexual gratification at any time. We're turned on by female nudity in any way, shape, or form. We're not picky either. It can come in a photograph of a nude stranger just as easily as in a romantic interlude with a naked girlfriend. It's almost like we have a visual ignition switch when it comes to viewing the female anatomy. Women seldom understand this because they aren't sexually stimulated in the same way we are. A lot of women view this visual aspect of our sexuality as low down, shallow and dirty, but it's not. It's how we're made.

When it comes to having an orgasm, our minds are on one thing. The actual physical act of sex with the woman. It's that simple. For women, (and I may be wrong here) but for women, orgasm is probably 10% physical and 90% mental. If a man is trying to please his woman, he can forget about it if her mind is a million miles away. For men it's all physical, but generally women need to focus mentally on the sexual experience in order to receive ultimate sexual pleasure.

Sex is a cyclical need for men, meaning, we want it all the time, or whenever we can get it. Hell, we don't even have to look at a woman to get an erection. We can think it, it doesn't take long. Now, women have their own unique cycle. Although physical pleasure may not be a cyclical need for them like it is in men, women long for attention and affection on a regular recurring basis. For example, just as a man would become far more vurnerable to physically cheating if his woman rarely responded to his physical needs for a sexual release, a woman becomes far more vurnerable to physically cheating when her emotional needs are neglected over and over again. When a woman cheats, most often than not, it begins as emotional cheating. A woman's emotional needs are just as vitally important to her as a man's physical needs are to him. I'm not disagreeing with you when you said it's more than that, because for some men it is more than that. The bottom line is for the men who want a long term commitment, we're still visual and want sex on a recurring basis, but of course always with the same woman over and over again.

Eh...this is the worst men's sexuality/sex ed lecture I've read or heard.

I have found that many men know as little about what makes them "tick" as many women know about what makes men "tick." Of course it sounds good for men to think and say that they are visually and sexually driven creatues with this inherent NEED. That solidifies gendered norms of males being systematic, rational, and purpose-driven---even if their actions appear completely irrational. Meanwhile, in all of this, women somehow remain the emotional ones whose actions are expressive and therefore have an opposite motivation than men's actions.

Yikes.

ETA: With exception for individual variation, all humans have the potential to be turned on by nudity. And, no, men are not turned on by ANY female nudity. Men are picky. To believe that they (including YOU) are not is to assume something about biological maleness that has yet to proven true. And reduces grown ass men to 1 year olds who are just discovering their penises exists.