Mishearing "i love you"

[PrettyInPink777]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

It's not a red flag to me. He didn't say he was afraid of love, he said he hadn't been in love.

It's really not as uncommon as people think for both women and men over 30 to have never been in love--or to have never had a "real" relationship, either.

This is helpful and really resonates with me. As far as me being outta practice...well, let it suffice to say that it's been a looonnng time since I've been even slightly accessible heart-wise and it is a bit scary and uncertain, I must say ...which is not a feeling I am used to having ....so your comment below is very wise, sistergreek : ) (excuse the weird multi-quote!)

Well, that's one reason why this is a red flag to you.

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

I definitely think there's a difference between loving someone and being IN love with someone.

Definitely.

I think so too .... and I'm not trying to hear him say after a year of not being in love (or at least not saying it!) "You knew what I wuz!" lol

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by PrettyInPink777

I think so too .... and I'm not trying to hear him say after a year of not being in love (or at least not saying it!) "You knew what I wuz!" lol

Being together for a year doesn't mean you will be in love with a person.

Just breathe. You are going into this expecting to fall in love and that isn't a definite. If you deeply like him or even love him but don't consider him someone that you could be IN love with after a year, that's fine too.

You're scaring me and I'm just reading your posts...I hope you aren't scaring him away. Keep the lines of communication open and be honest about your feelings along the way. You're a bit damaged and he's never been in love, can be a disaster if you two have different expectations.

[PrettyInPink777]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Being together for a year doesn't mean you will be in love with a person.

Just breathe. You are going into this expecting to fall in love and that isn't a definite. If you deeply like him or even love him but don't consider him someone that you could be IN love with after a year, that's fine too.

You're scaring me and I'm just reading your posts...I hope you aren't scaring him away. Keep the lines of communication open and be honest about your feelings along the way. You're a bit damaged and he's never been in love, can be a disaster if you two have different expectations.

Wisdom.

..... and breathing

Thanks!