Gays in fraternites (pt. 2)

[jlenoconel]

Originally Posted by shinerbock

I thought it was pretty apparent that I'm well aware that gay people aren't affectionate with each other at all times. But what about when a guy in my fraternity gets a serious boyfriend? Are they just going to avoid the fraternity house? Doesn't seem like something they'd want to do. What about a date party? I'm not saying that gay acts are all that weirds me out, I'm saying gay relationships do. I don't look down on them because I find the participants inferior, they simply seem unnatural to me. I can be around people in a gay relationship if need be, but I'd really rather not.

Take a relatively calm (not overly affectionate) couple from my days in the fraternity. They're not constantly physical, but sometimes they might be, and that should be ok. But even more so, you can usually tell they're a couple even though they're not disgusting to be around, and two guys acting like a couple is simply awkward for most people I was in the fraternity with. It is weird to us in the fraternity, and I highly suspect it would be uncomfortable for the gay guy.

I'm sure you were honored to be a part of your friend's wedding. Actually, I'm sure they're probably both great individuals. But for me personally, it would have to be someone extremely dear to me for me to in any way participate. I'm not discounting the possibility, but I believe homosexuality is wrong, and therefore I'd be unlikely to participate in something like that. I of course would be concerned that my friend getting married/union-ed wouldn't respect that and it could cause problems, but he has his beliefs, and I have mine.

I actually agree with the not bringing your boyfriend into the fraternity thing, but is it OK to bring your girlfriend in really? I am not condemning you for your response, just want to hear what you have to say?

[shinerbock]

Originally Posted by jlenoconel

I actually agree with the not bringing your boyfriend into the fraternity thing, but is it OK to bring your girlfriend in really? I am not condemning you for your response, just want to hear what you have to say?

I don't know, some people may be a lot more formalistic. I'm not talking about to chapter or other exclusively fraternity functions. I'm talking about sitting at the house and watching a game or going out with a bunch of brothers to the bar or to play golf. So sure, it is perfectly fine to bring a girlfriend to those functions. And I think it would be very awkward, for us and the gay person, if it was some unspoken rule that he can be in the fraternity, but he can't bring his S.O. around or out with us. Considering that may be a big part of his life, I have no idea why he'd want to join.