Biological Sister is a PNM!!

lauralaylin · #1 04-13-2008, 01:39 PM

She goes to a different school than where her sister is rushing, so preffing her sister might be a little weird. Is this common in other groups? I've heard of bring in another chapter to help with recruitment, but never heard of them actually preffing before.

violetpretty · #2 04-13-2008, 01:45 PM

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Originally Posted by lauralaylin

She goes to a different school than where her sister is rushing, so preffing her sister might be a little weird. Is this common in other groups? I've heard of bring in another chapter to help with recruitment, but never heard of them actually preffing before.

My guess is Trish was telling her story and forgot that the OP's sister is going to a different school.

creamrosecutie · #3 04-13-2008, 01:48 PM

And by "offer a DG a bid" I meant offer a DG legacy a bid

AOII Angel · #4 04-13-2008, 01:56 PM

creamrosecutie,

You are lucky that your sister will not be going through recruitment at your school. That takes a lot of the pressure off of her to go DG. I was a legacy to AOII going through at my sister's school. The pressure was enormous. My sister never said anything, but my mom really pushed hard. In the end, I couldn't have joined another group because of the relationship between my sister and I. I recommend that you tell your sister what you love about DG but that all chapters are different. Let her know that you would love to be her DG sister, but if she chooses another group, you'll be proud of her joining the greek system and joining a group she feels comfortable with. Being sisters doesn't mean you are both looking for the same experiences anyway. Also, be prepared to be really happy for her no matter what she chooses to do.
P.S. I just saw your last post. If she knows that just like you, being a DG legacy is NOT an automatic bid, than she should have no more issue not being offered a bid than you would have been. If she doesn't get a bid to DG, make sure you stress to her that being a DG is not the end all be all of life. ABC giving her a bid may be the best thing that ever happened to her.

AXiDTrish · #5 04-13-2008, 05:43 PM

Whoops, I didn't see that your sister went to a different school. Sorry.

What I have seen done, sometimes with success and sometimes not, is that the chapter that she would join ask you to attend pref or if you contact the advisor to ask if you could attend. You may not be able to recruit her, but sometimes it is important for a PNM to see the person they are a legacy to there. This works especially well if you being there is a surprise. You would definitely have to ask and make sure no toes are stepped on, but if the chapter really likes your sister, it could work to her/their/your favor.

Again, I have seen this be an incredible success as well as an awkward situation for the PNM, so you have to handle it with a lot of awareness.

If nothing else, be there for your sister and be a listening ear.
Good Luck!!!