How important to you is financial security in a relationship/marriage?

[PrettyBoy]

For me it's about a 5, which is in the middle. I think it's the man's primary job to provide for his wife. I say 5 because it would be nice if she could help with some of the bills, which would take some of the financial burden off of him.

I guess this thread really wouldn't apply to men, but in truth I don't think a woman gets involved with a man just for his money. Other factors play into that as well. I think she at least wants him to be able to support himself. I think most men are willing to marry a woman who expects to be financially supported thoughout life. But there aren't many woman who would marry men they would need to support. Most women would help support a joker through schooling that would prepare him for a career he enjoys. But when school is done she expects the joker to find a job. I think the biggest problem with finances in a marriage is that many couples set a standard of living for themselves far higher than they need to be happy. If they would just reduce their standards of living to a point of comfort, many could avoid the man working long hours, with the woman pressured to earn a paycheck. Like I said, it's his job to support her, not hers to support him.

I'm not against women who want careers, and I don't oppose women who choose a career early in life. All I'm saying is I think women should be able to have a choice. I think it's great she can work and help with the bills because that's the way things are now, but the money she earns should not have to be spent on basic support for the family. If he's not earning enough money, I think in many cases lowering the standard of living would not sit well with many women. Over spending and lowering the standard of living are two totally different things. A lot of couples divorce because of finances, but some of this can be prevented if he would somehow increase his income without sacrificing time with his wife.

Either way it goes, if he's not earning enough money she may leave. On the other hand if he's working long hours to make her happy financially, she still may leave. The reason being is because he may be meeting her financial needs, but her emotional needs are still being unmet.

For me, I would like her to work and make enough money to support herself, but as long as we're together, I'll take care of her to the best of my ability with the resources I have, because it's my job to serve her. If she still isn't happy, and I'm doing the best I can then I'll just have to say see ya. Some women are never happy.