How old were you when you left home?
I left home at 17 for college. I "permanently" left home (moved into my own apartment, changed my driver's license, etc.) at 21.
What was probably one of the biggest challenges that you had when living on your own? Juggling school and work? paying bills? room mates?
I had the roommates from hell during my freshman year. But I think my biggest shock was going directly from being totally under the thumb of two hyper-controlling parents to being totally on my own. Suddenly, I had my own bank account, my own credit cards (once I turned 18 a couple of months later), my own choice of how to manage my time, my own choice of whether to go to Mass or sleep in on a Sunday.
How has the experience made you feel thus far? What would you change about it?
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What advice would you give to a parent faced with the prospect of a child that has to leave the nest?
Let your child dip her toes into the grown-up pool before she gets thrown in head-first. Give your teenager an allowance and let her manage her own money - if she wants the fancy expensive jeans, she must save up for them. Let her make her own decisions, within reason, about where to apply to college.
Under what circumstances would you let your child return home or you would give them help?
I would theoretically allow a child to return home temporarily if she suffered some difficult and unexpected hardship - a layoff, a divorce, etc. She would be "gently encouraged" to get back on her feet and move back out.
Which do you think is harder to cope with: a daughter learning to live on her own or a son facing the same thing?
I have no children. But I think I would cope with either gender the same way - s/he is an adult and gets to go off on his/her own. When I left the nest, I kicked ass and took names, and I would expect any daughter of mine to do likewise.