Blondie's Retro Rush Story at Southern Private University

[UGAalum94]

No doubt Courtney's behavior was crazy, especially in the transferring schools area, but I also have to wonder what the chances are that a person who loved the group that much would turn out to be a bad chapter member.

On the one hand, I don't think Crying Girl of the weird rush story thread would be a good member. On the other other, if Courtney was otherwise well-adjusted, maybe she would have been a dedicated member of the chapter?

While I can related to a chapter not wanting to pledge a girl at the expense of a PNM that they wanted more, it's hard for me to understand when chapters reject, for any but the most substantial reasons, affiliate members who are already members of the group.

Maybe I underestimate the number of people truly crazy enough to try to force their way into certain chapters this way. Maybe the chapter gate keeping is needed.

[ComradesTrue]

Originally Posted by UGAalum94

On the other other, if Courtney was otherwise well-adjusted, maybe she would have been a dedicated member of the chapter?

Maybe the chapter gate keeping is needed.

Let's just say that with the Weezies, during my era, being a "dedicated" member was not enough. They had other criteria that one must possess to be an accepted/visible part of their group.

And I would go with only marginally-adjusted on Courtney. There were some definite self-esteem issues. She was nice and all, but at times tried too hard, which was annoying.

That is not to say that Courtney would not have been a great member at any number of chapters on our campus. But image/perception was everything to her so she closed her options to every chapter except the one she perceived as tops on our campus.

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by nittanyalum

Well, plus, it's not like she went to the noncompetitive school, got the letters, then transferred to a different competitive school and tried to affiliate -- she went back to the SAME school and the SAME chapter that cut her during formal rush TWICE. No doubt every junior and senior in that house knew who she was and what she'd done (and everyone else from her rush groups too). I wouldn't have voted her in and rewarded her sneaking in through the back door either. Her situation is completely different from a "normal" transfer looking to affiliate.

Originally Posted by Blondie93

Let's just say that with the Weezies, during my era, being a "dedicated" member was not enough. They had other criteria that one must possess to be an accepted/visible part of their group.

And I would go with only marginally-adjusted on Courtney. There were some definite self-esteem issues. She was nice and all, but at times tried too hard, which was annoying.

That is not to say that Courtney would not have been a great member at any number of chapters on our campus. But image/perception was everything to her so she closed her options to every chapter except the one she perceived as tops on our campus.

In this situation, it looks like not voting for affiliation was the right thing. Courtney's certainly not very sympathetic to me, and it strikes me as odd that she went to those lengths, particularly if it was just to be a Weezy at that campus. (In contrast with say a XYZ legacy who feels like being an XYZ is the most important thing and was willing to go to a different school to do it. It's still bizarre decision making, but it seems like the group loyalty is sincere since it's not just about the one chapter.)

The role of being a chapter member versus a national/international group member is just a complicated thing and withholding affiliation typically strikes me as bad in regard to the larger group.

ETA: This is one of those areas where being from a 100+ person chapter colors my judgment no doubt. I suspect that the smaller the chapter, the bigger disruption a badly matched affiliate can cause.