dating a sweetheart and I'm NOT a greek

[brownsugardivah]

Im going to put my $.63 and $.64 cents in here. Just because the girl that you are dating is an Iota Sweetheart dont judge her by the organization. I can tell you that Iota Sweethearts are an organization that is here to help the brothers of Iota Phi Theta. And they truly are family. No we are not groupies, and we have done a lot to help support our fraternity since 1963. So if its the organization affiliation, dont stop talking to her just because she is active in an auxilary. And if her doing service with our sweetheart sisters and our frat brothers, going away to national conventions bothers you than maybe you should re-think dating ANYONE for that matter who is involved with a greek organization. Because that same uneasyiness that you feel with HER your going to feel with anyone that you date. A lot of ppl will think that we are groupies of Iota but thats just because we are very protective of each other. Especially being the last org in the d9 and just being disliked, talked about, etc etc....we just have a protective heart towards our brothers and in return they feel the need to protect us as well and guide us in the right direction so we wont end up like the other auxilaries running around aimlessly trying to attach onto a frat. But its nothing but family here.... but its the same case if you were dating a woman in a sorority who were affiliated with a fraternity (whether officially or unoficially) nobody will understand the bond they have with their brothers....so if its that connection that you question then maybe you should just date someone not affiliated with an organization at all.

My boyfriend broke up with me when I told him I was going on court to be an Iota Sweetheart and sadly to say he went on to pledge a fraternity, and 2 years later Ive done more with Iota Phi Theta than he has done with his organization, and I have 1 letter and he has 3. Judge her for the lady that she is. BUT I do say that our selection process is very strict and our brothers are very strict on us about how we act in public so I would love to say that everyone acts as much of a lady as we can 24/7....but she's a woman first before she's an Iota Sweetheart. So judge her on HER CHARACTER, and is she a loving person, does she support you as the man she's dating... does she have morals for herself....not the organization. Because at the end of the day, Iota Sweethearts doesnt make her who she is. It's just the organization that we do service with and for.