What went wrong with your wedding?

[Educatingblue]

1. When I had gotten to the church apparently there had been a break down in communication between the priest and I. My husband and the groomsmen were getting dressed in the area that I was supposed to get dressed in. I had to wait in the limo for them to get done and move to a different location so he wouldn't see me.

2. In my haste, I left the programs and flower girl baskets in my CAR at the hotel. My Brother-in-law who had a shiny new corvette did break neck speeds to drive back to the hotel to get the stuff from my trunk and speed back to the church.

3. My photographer left before the wedding is over, so we have no pictures after us dancing. After the fact, he ripped us off, we have an album of pictures and no enlargements after he was already paid in full.

Looking back, none of those things are major except the pictures. Other than that, we had a great day.

[AOII_LB93]

Originally Posted by Educatingblue

1. When I had gotten to the church apparently there had been a break down in communication between the priest and I. My husband and the groomsmen were getting dressed in the area that I was supposed to get dressed in. I had to wait in the limo for them to get done and move to a different location so he wouldn't see me.

2. In my haste, I left the programs and flower girl baskets in my CAR at the hotel. My Brother-in-law who had a shiny new corvette did break neck speeds to drive back to the hotel to get the stuff from my trunk and speed back to the church.

3. My photographer left before the wedding is over, so we have no pictures after us dancing. After the fact, he ripped us off, we have an album of pictures and no enlargements after he was already paid in full.

Looking back, none of those things are major except the pictures. Other than that, we had a great day.

EB - sorry about the photographer, that was something I was super scared about since we had our wedding overseas. Thankfully he was great...but still, yours? no blown up photos? what a jerk!

Let's see, anything major for mine? Well it was major to me,

-The restaurant where we were to have the reception closed and didn't bother to call and tell me. I found out by calling one day and it was their last day open after their two week vacation - the manager said, oh we might be reopened by then. Thankfully we hadn't given a deposit, and I had a few months to plan, but I stressed to no end considering that I had never seen any of the places where we got married, including the church.

-My sister was freezing cold and refused to take off her jacket for most of the photos, except the ones in the church and at the reception. Her feet were cold in the shoes she decided to wear so she wore her UGGs.....yes, that's right...UGGs. Thankfully she had a long dress and we only had 19 guests total.

-The cake was lopsided and super dry. I'm talking drier than any cake in the history of cakes I have ever had.

I think that is it. Short list...I still had a blast and would do it all again just the same...even the dry cake.

[Educatingblue]

Originally Posted by AOII_LB93

EB - sorry about the photographer, that was something I was super scared about since we had our wedding overseas. Thankfully he was great...but still, yours? no blown up photos? what a jerk!

No he never gave us the enlargements. He played the "contract" game for over a year. It goes something like this:

Me: Can we meet to discuss enlargements

Him: Ok, bring the pictures you would like enlarged and the contract...I forgot how many enlargements I owe you !!!!!

Me: 1 month later...are the pictures ready?

Him: I'm working on something special

Me: 2 months later...are the pictures ready

Him: You never told me how many pictures I owe you, could you send me the contract

Me: I've already given it to you, but I'll fax it again today

Him: I never got it

Mom and dad call: Where are our daughter's pictures

Him: She never sent me the contract

Me: Don't play these silly a** games with me! If you lost my d*mn pictures or spent the money, then say so and stop wasting my f*ckin' time!!!

To be continued......

[AGDee]

EB: It sounds like it's time for small claims court on that...

[skylark]

Originally Posted by Educatingblue

Him: She never sent me the contract

Me: Don't play these silly a** games with me! If you lost my d*mn pictures or spent the money, then say so and stop wasting my f*ckin' time!!!

To be continued......

Do you have fax cover sheets showing that you sent them?

I'd send a paper copy of the contract with the enlargement section highlighted by certified mail, return receipt. If you have the fax cover sheets, I'd send paper copies of those attached, as well. That way he knows that you can prove he received the contract. THEN, enclose a letter politely but firmly setting a deadline of 30 or 60 days for either completing his obligations under the contract or returning $____ of the money you paid plus copies of the negatives (if you don't have them) so that you can get them done elsewhere. Clearly state that after that 30 days (or 60 days) you will immediately be taking further legal action.

[Educatingblue]

Originally Posted by skylark

Do you have fax cover sheets showing that you sent them?

I'd send a paper copy of the contract with the enlargement section highlighted by certified mail, return receipt. If you have the fax cover sheets, I'd send paper copies of those attached, as well. That way he knows that you can prove he received the contract. THEN, enclose a letter politely but firmly setting a deadline of 30 or 60 days for either completing his obligations under the contract or returning $____ of the money you paid plus copies of the negatives (if you don't have them) so that you can get them done elsewhere. Clearly state that after that 30 days (or 60 days) you will immediately be taking further legal action.

We have gone through all of that. Mind you we were married in 2005, so the whole issue was just dragged out for a long time.

As a follow up to my last post, my mom called him and told him he was basically a scam and ruined our wedding etc. He went on to say that I was spoiled, his most difficult client, and he could tell I had never been inconvenienced! He argued that he gave us our album 3 months after the wedding, but not the enlargements.

Obviously, if you book a service, you expect delivery of the product in a reasonable amount of time. Every time I called he was busy, could not make the appointments etc. and this went on for a year. Then in 2006, my husband's mother died and he later tried to say that's when he was "getting" it all together and I was impossible to contact.

Even after settling with him, you still feel horrible about your wedding day memories being ruined.