Continuous Recruitment Question

[ukjjmom]

Sadly, I realize this does happen in life. But, don't you expect more from a group of educated, classy women than from a random man or heartless corporation? As a sorority woman (my chapter did not do CR) and a professional, I certainly do. I commend the advisor who has her chapter write a short note to the disappointed young women. I also think it makes sense to give them a timeframe within which they will be called if they are to be invited back. Either solution makes a phone call from the chapter unnecessary (as the responses above make clear this is a highly undesirable task) and is FAR preferable to leaving the young woman "hanging."

[gee_ess]

I am so sorry things did not work out for your daughter! I really like the alum poster above that has her members write to the pnm. Excellent idea and good training for other times/situations in life where correspondence is required.

And, you are right...kindness is never out of fashion. Just because a date doesn't call back, doesn't make it the right way to do it. And, in my experience, corporate America does tell you whether or not you got the job, or sends a "thank you for your resume," etc.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by ukjjmom

Sadly, I realize this does happen in life. But, don't you expect more from a group of educated, classy women than from a random man or heartless corporation? As a sorority woman (my chapter did not do CR) and a professional, I certainly do. I commend the advisor who has her chapter write a short note to the disappointed young women. I also think it makes sense to give them a timeframe within which they will be called if they are to be invited back. Either solution makes a phone call from the chapter unnecessary (as the responses above make clear this is a highly undesirable task) and is FAR preferable to leaving the young woman "hanging."

See, the problem here is that there isn't always a set "timeframe" with COB. Some groups are advocating that chapters recruit throughout the semester and add women into the pledge classes as needed. Many pledge programs have modules that are interchangeable, enabling women to enter at different times.

It's not as cut and dried as formal rush. Just because you aren't offered a bid today, doesn't mean you won't be offered a bid a month from now or a semester from now. Don't forget that the voting population of the sorority will be changing as the semesters go on.

Actually, it sounds to me rereading your original post that if that was the wording the used, they weren't necessarily telling her to keep her phone on because they might be offering her a bid - more like they might be calling about more functions. Most groups who do COR invite the PNMs to multiple events. If she isn't invited to any more functions, she definitely isn't going to get a bid. She needs to wipe this sorority off her list and check out the other groups.

I understand that you are worried and hurt for your daughter, but as you said, your chapter did not do COR and it's a totally different animal than formal rush - in many ways its complete opposite. You can't judge them on the same scale.

[GtownGirl98]

More food for thought... just like the bid matching system isn't perfect, nor is COR. Errors happen within the process, from selection errors to cell phone mishaps to plain ol'miscommunication between members.

Whatever has happened... IF she really wants this group and this group only... advise her to continue trying during the next formal recruitment period. BUT also advise her to keep an open mind about the other groups. I might be wrong but your name "MIGHT" indicate that your daughter is attending a HUGE greek system school so there COULD very well be more than one group that your daughter can find a home with. So encourage her to get to know other girls in her classes and groups, attend sporting events/other social gatherings, and make herself known on campus in a POSITIVE light.

Hope that my two cents help/comfort/encourage.