Gifts that hurt your feelings

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

But you're right: no romance without finance

That's the way it is now, and this is sad. True enough, no one wants to be with a broke joker, but at the same time to leave him because something bad happened financially is flat out wrong. A lot of women are good for doing this mess.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

That's the way it is now, and this is sad. True enough, no one wants to be with a broke joker, but at the same time to leave him because something bad happened financially is flat out wrong. A lot of women are good for doing this mess.

A broke joker is starting out is one issue.

A joker who loses all your money so you cannot pay the mortgage and now is broke is another issue altogether. Especially if the money is yours.

A fella that loses his job, and slowly his finances dwindle, with careful planning, things can be handled, slowly and carefully.

But the fella who loses his job, spendthrifts his way to oblivion and the repo man as well as the collectors start calling and harassing the house, that must be dealt with swiftly.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by fantASTic

Haha, aren't you so clever!

LOL. I was only teasing you.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

A broke joker is starting out is one issue.

A joker who loses all your money so you cannot pay the mortgage and now is broke is another issue altogether. Especially if the money is yours.

A fella that loses his job, and slowly his finances dwindle, with careful planning, things can be handled, slowly and carefully.

But the fella who loses his job, spendthrifts his way to oblivion and the repo man as well as the collectors start calling and harassing the house, that must be dealt with swiftly.

Starting out is one thing, but what if things don't go as planned the way the couple planned it to? Do you think it's o.k. for her to just break out and leave? A relationship is one thing but a marriage is another. It says for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, and in sickness and in health, or something of that nature. AQAK it could actually just stop with for better for worse. That sums it all up. With the divorce rate being as high as it is, something is very wrong, and I think a lot of it is based on affairs and finances.

Well of course if he loses all the money, to me that sounds like he's irresponsible. When I think of someone losing money I think of gambling or something like that.

The joker that loses his job, what if things never get back to the way they used to be? Does she stay or leave? Some women will stay. It would be wrong to leave.

If he loses his job and spends freely that dude sounds irresponsible too. Who would stay with a man like that?

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Starting out is one thing, but what if things don't go as planned the way the couple planned it to? Do you think it's o.k. for her to just break out and leave? A relationship is one thing but a marriage is another. It says for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, and in sickness and in health, or something of that nature. AQAK it could actually just stop with for better for worse. That sums it all up. With the divorce rate being as high as it is, something is very wrong, and I think a lot of it is based on affairs and finances.

We are talking in the context of marriage. If one makes the vow for "richer or for poorer" and they leave because the man somehow loses in a business failure and tries to have subsistent level of income from a career, then I think the duty falls on the wife if she is not working and may need to make a contribution if the couple does not have children.

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Well of course if he loses all the money, to me that sounds like he's irresponsible. When I think of someone losing money I think of gambling or something like that.

I know of a man that purchases cars, not flashy ones, but gottdayum dumbass stupid cars like a Blue Hawaiian Chevy Truck from 1977 with a lift gate. AND a 1980-something Fiero--El Fuego! AND a Pathfinder Truck, A 1970-something RV that looks like junk.

Let's just say the IRS has questions and is charging him more than what some people make per year.

It is enough to make his wife go insane...

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

The joker that loses his job, what if things never get back to the way they used to be? Does she stay or leave? Some women will stay. It would be wrong to leave.

If he loses his job and spends freely that dude sounds irresponsible too. Who would stay with a man like that?

For the first case, most women will take off if the man has no job in sight. I think it would be wrong if say, I were to leave, if my husband was unable to find a job in 6 months to 1 year. But, my husband is unique and has placed himself in a position that if the folks laid him off, there would be TONS of companies begging for his expertise.

There is nothing wrong with women achieving similar circumstances. Sometimes it is not like that especially when someone has children. But there are SEVERAL women here who are doing that right now.

For the second case, the spendthrift, lazy dude or dudette, who would want to stay with someone like that... Well, you'd be amazed who folks stay with...

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

We are talking in the context of marriage. If one makes the vow for "richer or for poorer" and they leave because the man somehow loses in a business failure and tries to have subsistent level of income from a career, then I think the duty falls on the wife if she is not working and may need to make a contribution if the couple does not have children.



I know of a man that purchases cars, not flashy ones, but gottdayum dumbass stupid cars like a Blue Hawaiian Chevy Truck from 1977 with a lift gate. AND a 1980-something Fiero--El Fuego! AND a Pathfinder Truck, A 1970-something RV that looks like junk.

Let's just say the IRS has questions and is charging him more than what some people make per year.

It is enough to make his wife go insane...



For the first case, most women will take off if the man has no job in sight. I think it would be wrong if say, I were to leave, if my husband was unable to find a job in 6 months to 1 year. But, my husband is unique and has placed himself in a position that if the folks laid him off, there would be TONS of companies begging for his expertise.

There is nothing wrong with women achieving similar circumstances. Sometimes it is not like that especially when someone has children. But there are SEVERAL women here who are doing that right now.

For the second case, the spendthrift, lazy dude or dudette, who would want to stay with someone like that... Well, you'd be amazed who folks stay with...

LMAO at the Fiero comment. I always hated those wanna be Ferraris. When the oil got low on those things they caught on fire.

You made some valid points, but in a marriage you're supposed to stay with your spouse. I could see if he/she was cheating, or was abusive or just flat out lazy but if he/she tries to make ends meet, I think that's wrong to throw away a good man/woman. I think the divorce rate now is 60%, correct me if I'm wrong, but I think it is. That's sad. It's a different generation. Back in the day, you didn't see this kind of thing.

[ktbug10474]

so i know i'm drudging up an old thread but it's one i get EVERY year and i know it's supposed to be a joke but now it's just not funny anymore.

Every year for my birthday (as a gag gift) i get a partridge in a pear tree.... care to guess what day my bday's on???

[nittanyalum]

^^^Arbor day? j/k

[ktbug10474]

hehe nope. i think my birthday is quite a few months after that lol

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by ktbug10474

so i know i'm drudging up an old thread but it's one i get EVERY year and i know it's supposed to be a joke but now it's just not funny anymore.

Every year for my birthday (as a gag gift) i get a partridge in a pear tree.... care to guess what day my bday's on???

Looks like I've got a new joker to tease.

[tben#32]

will first of all a $20 sweat shirt? will u know u can use it as a night wear....

so here is my story:
i dated this guy for about 3 years, from the beginning of my high school year to the beginning of my junior year in high school. as our 3 year anniversary was coming up i went to town trying to find the perfect gift. as i was looking around the mall i saw this cute dog. he is so into dogs so i thought u know i could buy him a dog. the dog was a pit bull. so the day came and he came over ( to my house) we sat there and we talked about our years together then i told him i had a gift for him, he told me he had a gift for me too so i was pretty hyped up about that day, as i gave him my gift he told me he loved it, as i was waiting for my gift he gave me coupons for a fast food resturant. he knows that i don't eat at fast food resturants. so the next day he told me that we should just be friends...

it was a great laugh though because i gave the coupons to a couple of kids. so yeah right now i am a senior in high school..

[RU OX Alum]

Originally Posted by tben#32

will first of all a $20 sweat shirt? will u know u can use it as a night wear....

so here is my story:
i dated this guy for about 3 years, from the beginning of my high school year to the beginning of my junior year in high school. as our 3 year anniversary was coming up i went to town trying to find the perfect gift. as i was looking around the mall i saw this cute dog. he is so into dogs so i thought u know i could buy him a dog. the dog was a pit bull. so the day came and he came over ( to my house) we sat there and we talked about our years together then i told him i had a gift for him, he told me he had a gift for me too so i was pretty hyped up about that day, as i gave him my gift he told me he loved it, as i was waiting for my gift he gave me coupons for a fast food resturant. he knows that i don't eat at fast food resturants. so the next day he told me that we should just be friends...

it was a great laugh though because i gave the coupons to a couple of kids. so yeah right now i am a senior in high school..

that sucks

[christiangirl]

I'm always a little offended when people buy me clothes that are way too big. Someone bought me a shirt that was a 3X for my birthday. At the time I wore about a L/XL, so I was just sitting there thinking, "Is that really what I look like to you????" It wouldn't be a problem if I were closer to it, but I was definitely offended. Now I'm about a medium, so a 2X would probably tick me off (unless it was someone who hadn't seen me recently). It doesn't bother some people, but I'm a little sensitive about it.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

I'm always a little offended when people buy me clothes that are way too big. Someone bought me a shirt that was a 3X for my birthday. At the time I wore about a L/XL, so I was just sitting there thinking, "Is that really what I look like to you????" It wouldn't be a problem if I were closer to it, but I was definitely offended. Now I'm about a medium, so a 2X would probably tick me off (unless it was someone who hadn't seen me recently). It doesn't bother some people, but I'm a little sensitive about it.

They are waiting for you to get married and have children - not in that order...

or


They thought you were still a kid and trying to say something about the size of your chest...

[sigmadiva]

Originally Posted by fantASTic

What do you do when you get a gift for an anniversary or something that CLEARLY has no thought put into it?

Advice?

Smile, say thank you, keep it for a while then donate the item to Goodwill or the Salvation Army and use it as a tax write-off. You benefit from the deduction and someone else benefits when they buy it. Believe me, someone *will* buy it.

On the flip side I gave a gift to a guy I was dating and he clearly was not too pleased, but he put a smile on his face and said thank you. See, I noticed that he had these ratty looking bath towels and I felt that he deserved better ones, so I went out and bought some nice ones for his birthday. I gave him this big heavy box and he looked sooo excited to open it. Then when he did he said, 'Oh, thanks....yeah...I guess I needed these.' I thought I was being practical, oh well