perplexing situation

[pinklion10]

The campus is small, and in order to get people, we have to PR, so it's public knowledge. I doubt the recruitment committee will agree to invite-only events... we really can't afford to be so exclusive with our numbers, unfortunately.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by pinklion10

The campus is small, and in order to get people, we have to PR, so it's public knowledge. I doubt the recruitment committee will agree to invite-only events... we really can't afford to be so exclusive with our numbers, unfortunately.

No. No. No. No. No.

Invite only events are the ONLY things you should be doing in your situation, unless you want Sleazy Sandra, B.O. Betty and Dumbass Debbie walking in your door.

[nittanyalum]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Sleazy Sandra, B.O. Betty and Dumbass Debbie

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLLLLLLL!!!!!

[Zeta13Girl]

First off your getting yourself into trouble calling her a pnm. She is not interested in joining a sorority so she is not a pnm. Second I know you are trying to be nice but sometimes being blunt is the only way people understand things. Next time she comes to an event pull her outside, so it doesnt create a scene with the pnms that really did show up for rush and tell her that you are sorry, but recruitment parties are for ladies interested in joining the sorority only. Tell her that your sisters would be more than glad to hang out with her this is just not the time or the place to do it.

[skylark]

Originally Posted by Zeta13Girl

First off your getting yourself into trouble calling her a pnm. She is not interested in joining a sorority so she is not a pnm. Second I know you are trying to be nice but sometimes being blunt is the only way people understand things. Next time she comes to an event pull her outside, so it doesnt create a scene with the pnms that really did show up for rush and tell her that you are sorry, but recruitment parties are for ladies interested in joining the sorority only. Tell her that your sisters would be more than glad to hang out with her this is just not the time or the place to do it.

I personally could see this approach backfiring on a small campus. Even if it doesn't end up being a scene at the COB party, this sort of thing has a high probability of becoming gossip by way of the moochy girl herself in retaliation. Once it gets around the campus gossip channels (ever played telephone?), it could easily become a source of even more negative PR for the sorority.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by skylark

I personally could see this approach backfiring on a small campus. Even if it doesn't end up being a scene at the COB party, this sort of thing has a high probability of becoming gossip by way of the moochy girl herself in retaliation. Once it gets around the campus gossip channels (ever played telephone?), it could easily become a source of even more negative PR for the sorority.

If she's as socially backward as she appears to be (i.e. not understanding the point of a COB party) I'm thinking her opinion might not carry a lot of weight on campus.

To the OP: have you ever actually given her a bid? If so, did she turn it down?

This is indeed a weird situation. I mean, I understand guys showing up to wet rush parties and having no interest in pledging. That makes sense because there is free beer. This on the other hand...I mean, rush parties are fun, but honestly, they're not THAT fun.

[skylark]

Originally Posted by 33girl

This on the other hand...I mean, rush parties are fun, but honestly, they're not THAT fun.

LOL. No kidding. Or maybe the OP's rush parties really ARE that fun?

[skylark]

Originally Posted by pinklion10

The campus is small, and in order to get people, we have to PR, so it's public knowledge. I doubt the recruitment committee will agree to invite-only events... we really can't afford to be so exclusive with our numbers, unfortunately.

See, your thinking is totally backwards on this point. Ask yourselves (literally, ask the chapter) how/why you joined. How many came to an event because they saw a flyer (without already knowing a member who could have personally extended the invite)? That is how you get it past the recruitment committee too. Why would you keep doing something that obviously hasn't been working? Ask yourself if every time you blast campus-wide invites that helps your chapter's image that you yourself described as needing a little oomph.

It isn't about being exclusive with numbers. It makes the PNMs you do invite feel special (like they are NOT just a number to you) which will make them more likely to come than if they saw that every girl on campus could come (and PNMs impliedly think that this means every girl on campus could join, even if it isn't true).

I know that this probably sounds counterintuitive, but you said yourself that often Ms. Mooch is the only one at these events. It doesn't look like the status quo is working, so why not give it a try?