Rush - What to NOT do or say

[wsuTriDelt]

I'm sure this has already been said but just be as nice to the girls you talk to as you can. More than not they're just as nervous as you are. When I went through recruitment some PNMs were flat out rude. You may not like a house you're invited back to but that doesn't mean you never utter a word, go to the bathroom and stay in there then entire time or tell a girl straight out 'I hate this house, don't envite me back'.
Just because you don't like a house the first day doesn't mean it's not the house from you, I wasn't too sold on my house the first day I went, but by the end of the week I realized it was the house for me.
With a few exceptions, you'll usually end up in the right house for you. Just keep in mind that even if you don't like a house the things you say to them during recruitement is usually remembered, and you don't want to start off greek life with a bad rep.
Anyway that's my 2 cents :]
GO TRI DELTA!

[Zillini]

Originally Posted by wsuTriDelt

I'm sure this has already been said but just be as nice to the girls you talk to as you can. More than not they're just as nervous as you are. When I went through recruitment some PNMs were flat out rude. You may not like a house you're invited back to but that doesn't mean you never utter a word, go to the bathroom and stay in there then entire time or tell a girl straight out 'I hate this house, don't envite me back'.
Just because you don't like a house the first day doesn't mean it's not the house from you, I wasn't too sold on my house the first day I went, but by the end of the week I realized it was the house for me.
With a few exceptions, you'll usually end up in the right house for you. Just keep in mind that even if you don't like a house the things you say to them during recruitement is usually remembered, and you don't want to start off greek life with a bad rep.
Anyway that's my 2 cents :]
GO TRI DELTA!

I've never understood anyone who behaved like that. The least you can do is pin a smile on your face and go through the motions. There is no need to be rude. If a PNM gets invited to a chapter she isn't interested, well all she has to do is not accept. Duh!

These young women seem to forget that they may end up in class with someone from that chapter after Recruitment is over. Or an active might be friends with or live/room with someone from another chapter the PNM IS interested in. Actives can talk just as much as PNMs about their Recruitment experience/impressions, just not about their selection process.

On the flip side, I'm forever stressing to my actives that there will be PNMs they don't click with, that they may not even like. But it's their job to play the role of a gracious hostess. Every PNM that doesn't receive an invitation to the next round should shocked because she had such a nice time. The actives also forget PNMs talk about their experiences at the different chapters. Who wants to join a group that was rude to your new friend?

I think the problem is that we're dealing with 18-21 year olds. Not all of them have mastered the social skill of masking their true feelings with politeness. The craziness of a competitive Recruitment does serve a purpose. It should to teach the young women to deal with (sometimes) uncomfortable even forced social interaction, as well as stress. Sadly not everyone has learned those lessons very well yet.

[MTSUGURL]

Originally Posted by Zillini

If a PNM gets invited to a chapter she isn't interested, well all she has to do is not accept. Duh!

On my campus, you had to attend all parties you were invited back too unless your invites exceeded the number of parties you could attend. Not accepting an invitation wasn't an option if your number of invites was equal to or less than the number of parties you could go to. Not that this excuses rudeness - nothing does. I just wish I'd been able to slap a few of the girls in my recruitment group - their behavior made me embarrassed for them.

[MSKKG]

There is no excuse for rudeness, and one reason I've heard for it is that these PNMs either don't want to rush and are being coerced into it by their family or are only interested in a particular chapter. They want to put the "cutting" monkey on the "undesirable" chapters' backs so they can report to their moms that "the ABCs and XYZs cut me and I don't know why--guess I wasn't meant for sorority life/I'll have to join DEF." They are then victims of circumstance and not responsible for their decision to drop out completely or their decision to choose the GLO they want.