Why....?

SAE1955, my goodness, you actually had the nerve to say what ive been wanting to scream since I was in HS I think everyone has good thoughts on this subject.
Here's my feelings on this.I was the good girl who focused on academics and wanted to get into college. Besides my "friends" back then had so many bf's and bf porblems that they had enough for me. College.. I went to Michigan. Nuff said. Id say about 80% of the campus was single, those who were in "relationships" openly cheated on each other. My campus was nothing but on big booty call. Everyone had been with everyone kinda. Not that there werent any guys who werent bf material, but everyone was young and just wanted to have fun. Which was what I wanted too. Now im done and still in my early 20's and this is fun ME time. Dont want a bf, and not looking for one. However if it happens it happens. The only time I even thought about having a bf is when my friends that had them kind of forced the subject on me.
I agree that girls seem so set on relationships nowadays to a point where its almost sickening. Guys too but it is mostly girls. And I agree about those who feel they constantly need to have a bf. I think its a dependency issue, which is probably not going to be healthy in the long run. I have a friend who is 22 and currently engaged, and my bestfriend got married at 19 and now at the age of 22 has 11 mo. old. For me... this is wayyyyy to young. I havent even began to "live" my life yet at 22. Who has? But hey thats them.
My thing is im still young. Before I even committ to something serious like marriage I want to do stuff Ive always want to do. I want to be done with grad school and have a career (not job)or lat least a lil through it, travel a bit, go wild from the ages of 22-26, be financially stable and only have to depend on my mom if its a DIRE emergency. I just feel that if I got married early I wouldnt have a life outside of the marriage. I dont want to be known as "Mrs Whatever" or so and so's wife. I want to have an accomplished me. Im an Hyphenating my name If I ever do get married. I dont want to be one of those mom's who's on Jenny Jones with my teen saying I am trying to relive my 20's or even worst be in unhappy in marriage. What I dont understand is why many women feel they will die or its the end of the world if they dont have a bf or they dont get married? To me those who go around trying to keep a bf and relationship just prolong their agony.
JAM I really love your post, always right on the mark!