Pregnant and in a sorority

[KappaKittyCat]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

when you joined Zeta, you were not pregnant so that financial burden was not present when you agreed to pay the required dues. You now have extenuating circumstances which I'm sure Zeta has encountered somewhere along the line. Fight for your right (no...not to party) to preserve your ZTA membership. ZTA for a lifetime wouldn't mean much if they and you didn't work to make it for a lifetime. Good luck getting early alum status. I think in some way you'd grow to regret your decision to drop out! Congratulations on your engagement and your future child!

And for what it's worth, when we had members resign during the school year, regardless of whether they dropped during the term or at the break, we made them pay dues for the remainder of the term - so you'd still have to pay dues for this term. Just a thought.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by KappaKittyCat

And for what it's worth, when we had members resign during the school year, regardless of whether they dropped during the term or at the break, we made them pay dues for the remainder of the term - so you'd still have to pay dues for this term. Just a thought.

Those members were likely withdrawing because they no longer cared to be a member. Being pregnant and wanting early alumna status is waaaaaay different.

[FSUZeta]

i think i may be repeating myself, but please call or email one of your advisors or go straight to i.o.-most likely your vp3 nor any other chapter officers are going to have the correct answer for you.

i believe that you could quickly get alum. status, thus not have to pay collegiate dues. you would not have to join an alumnae chapter, thus not have to pay alumnae dues(which by the way are usually around $35/40 per year). any time in the future that you wanted to join an alumnae chapter, you would be able to. we alums. never ask "where have you been for the past 10 years"-we are just happy to have you active when it works into your life.

i have given you advice via pm and in this thread. i do know what i am talking about-i have been an advisor for over 15 years . you are getting the same advice from members of other sororities. now it is up to you to act on that advice.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

i think i may be repeating myself, but please call or email one of your advisors or go straight to i.o.-most likely your vp3 nor any other chapter officers are going to have the correct answer for you.

i believe that you could quickly get alum. status, thus not have to pay collegiate dues. you would not have to join an alumnae chapter, thus not have to pay alumnae dues(which by the way are usually around $35/40 per year). any time in the future that you wanted to join an alumnae chapter, you would be able to. we alums. never ask "where have you been for the past 10 years"-we are just happy to have you active when it works into your life.

i have given you advice via pm and in this thread. i do know what i am talking about-i have been an advisor for over 15 years . you are getting the same advice from members of other sororities. now it is up to you to act on that advice.

Repeated for emphasis

[KappaKittyCat]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

Those members were likely withdrawing because they no longer cared to be a member. Being pregnant and wanting early alumna status is waaaaaay different.

I know. What I meant was that if she resigned because of money, she might still have to pay for the semester. She would've if she'd been in my chapter.

[nittanyalum]

Why does it seem like we are all much more concerned about this young lady remaining a Zeta Tau Alpha than SHE is?

[skylark]

Originally Posted by nittanyalum

Why does it seem like we are all much more concerned about this young lady remaining a Zeta Tau Alpha than SHE is?

I think one answer to this is because many of us have found extraordinarily rewarding alum experiences with our respective organizations and we might not have realized what we were giving up if we were in this young woman's position. It sounds like the "vp3" quoted something out of a membership guide that isn't really meant to be a biblical answer to every situation and HQ knows that and may regularly deal with these special situations in a different manner than what is spelled out in the membership guide. It would be a loss to any GLO for that org to lose out on someone permanently and not be able to use her as a future alum leader, advisor, etc. simply because she was put in a position where a well-meaning collegiate thought they only had a couple options and a simple call to an advisor or regional representative (please do this OP!) might present some other options.