"Dropping" your girlfriend (with a twist)

[fantASTic]

Originally Posted by Ilaria Ame

i think that the rule was made because the founders didn't want to see a split within chapters if a relationship was formed and then broken up. i wouldn't pretend to know for sure though. it makes sense to me but then again, i'm straight, so it really doesn't affect me anyway

Understandable...but in my experience with the couple I previously mentioned, I can't see that happening. We're adults. They have a chaplain to help if something happens, and I think they wouldn't get the rest of the sorority involved.

I see it as discrimination to not allow it, and I'm not really a discriminatory sort of person. Except in recruitment

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by fantASTic

Understandable...but in my experience with the couple I previously mentioned, I can't see that happening. We're adults. They have a chaplain to help if something happens, and I think they wouldn't get the rest of the sorority involved.

Are you trying to say that since you been in college NONE of your friends have had ANY drama with each other over a relationship?

Sorority memebers are still college women, and college women cause drama. It hasn't been a problem, yet, but if they BREAK UP - that's where the problems are going to come in...

[fantASTic]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Are you trying to say that since you been in college NONE of your friends have had ANY drama with each other over a relationship?

Sorority memebers are still college women, and college women cause drama. It hasn't been a problem, yet, but if they BREAK UP - that's where the problems are going to come in...

No, you're right - but the girls that I KNOW are very aware of the situation they are in, and as they took a risk in coming out both as gay and as in a relationship, I think they were very prepared for what could happen. I don't think that they would allow a breakup to split the chapter, if only because they keep their relationship very discrete and very personal. At chapter events, they hang out together, but you won't see them holding hands or kissing. Many of the sisters had NO idea until they were told, myself included.

I think that their situation will make them act much more maturely IF they break up. But like I said, I am basing this off the ONE couple that I know.

Originally Posted by fantASTic

Understandable...but in my experience with the couple I previously mentioned, I can't see that happening. We're adults. They have a chaplain to help if something happens, and I think they wouldn't get the rest of the sorority involved.

I see it as discrimination to not allow it, and I'm not really a discriminatory sort of person. Except in recruitment

When I was advising the collegians, we had major drama when two sisters (in the same chapter -- MINE!) decided to be in a relationship. It was okay for a while, they even lived together...and then they broke up. It was a nightmare because the chapter was divided. Some girls decided that they were "Team E" and the others "Team S". "E" graduated, so the drama went down a little, but "S" remained, and to our horror, started dating "E2". The entire chapter got involved in that whole soap opera.

Thankfully, no drama there. "S" and "E2" both graduated and are still together 3 years later.