Do you just eat it or send it back?

[PM_Mama00]

Originally Posted by OOhsoflyDELTA#9

once again its par for the course/occupational hazard when you get a job that is dependent on tips...my job for instance...I work from home and my time is not monitored at all...people think its great and gravy, which most of the time it is...BUT...unless I'm on vacation, I need to be available 24/7...if at a movie, on a date, in church, whenever..3am Saturday morning or 10pm Tuesday night...it doesn't matter...I knew this when I accepted the position...so when I had to leave one of my best friend's wedding early a couple of months ago...ummm ok...such is life...I signed up, I didn't get drafted....

if I sit at a bar and wait for my to go order, I tip the bartender on what he SERVED me...

but to each his own...I would never serve 1 because I don't have the temperment for it and 2 because I like to know exactly how much money I'm making...

And maybe if people weren't such cheap asses and understood how to show monetary appreciation to someone who is providing them a service, then serving wouldn't be such a shitty job.

[fantASTic]

Originally Posted by PM_Mama00

And maybe if people weren't such cheap asses and understood how to show monetary appreciation to someone who is providing them a service, then serving wouldn't be such a shitty job.

You are so right. Tipping carry-out SHOULD be as expected as tipping a server. Having done it for quite some time, you make no money, put up with a LOT of shit, and oftentimes go waaaaay out of your way to make everyone happy. And having to tip out the bartender on sales that I did where I made NO tip makes it 10x worse, because I have to PAY to serve you. It costs me money. If you're not going to tip, make it yourself at home, because I don't feel like spending the little money that I earn on you because you're too cheap to tip.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by PM_Mama00

And maybe if people weren't such cheap asses and understood how to show monetary appreciation to someone who is providing them a service, then serving wouldn't be such a shitty job.

lol

[BabyPiNK_FL]

Originally Posted by PM_Mama00

And maybe if people weren't such cheap asses and understood how to show monetary appreciation to someone who is providing them a service, then serving wouldn't be such a shitty job.

Aw sister!

I've never waitressed. So I honestly wouldn't think to tip someone who brought me the bag either because all I see is that they brought the bag and I assume the chef did the work and I can't directly tip him. I don't make much either, me eating out is a treat and I wouldn't "give" money away if I really honestly don't think/know that the person did anything. I work in retail (jewelry) and I do a lot of work to make a sale (up to 30 min. and sometimes the people will buy nothing and no commission either). I work for my hourly wage (granted it's not $2.00), but it's not much at all. I can't afford to make any less and wouldn't work a job so dependent on other people. I just think that is the point she is trying to make.

I'm not trying to justify whether or not anyone should tip, but I really do see both sides of the argument. People really might not understand a lot of what goes into waiting. But at the same time, if someone doesn't feel like the service the received merited it (cos they don't really see the other side) then they feel like they are basically giving money away and they already paid for the food. (Ex. sometimes when we do an ear piercing the people are nice and offer us a tip, but the majority do not because they are already paying for the earring and know we are being paid by the company and whatever the wage happens to be is not their concern; although obviously a restaurant in most cases is different because tipping is the norm there). I guess it's because most times you just pay for what you buy (ex. in a store you buy a shirt or milk but you don't tip the stock people cos they put it there, etc.)

P.S. -just reiterating that I see both sides and I'm not endorsing tipping or not tipping so nobody be mad and have a t*tty attack like GCers are so prone to doing.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by BabyPiNK_FL

have a t*tty attack like GCers are so prone to doing.

Yeah, tell me about it. This should be a thread.

[LeslieAGD]

I've never worked in the restaurant business and I guess I am learning some things by reading this thread...I very rarely order out from restaurants (other than pizza), but when I do I don't tip the hostess/counterperson that hands me the food. It's just that these days, EVERYONE is looking to get a tip. There are tip cups on every counter from the coffee shops and ice cream places, to the fast food counters and everyday stores. It's ridiculous! I'm sorry but unless you are providing me with a personal service (ie - serving my food, cutting my hair, delivering something to my home, or parking my car), I don't think you deserve my money.

[jubilance1922]

Originally Posted by LeslieAGD

I've never worked in the restaurant business and I guess I am learning some things by reading this thread...I very rarely order out from restaurants (other than pizza), but when I do I don't tip the hostess/counterperson that hands me the food. It's just that these days, EVERYONE is looking to get a tip. There are tip cups on every counter from the coffee shops and ice cream places, to the fast food counters and everyday stores. It's ridiculous! I'm sorry but unless you are providing me with a personal service (ie - serving my food, cutting my hair, delivering something to my home, or parking my car), I don't think you deserve my money.

That is such a pet peeve of mine as well. Every establishment does not need a tip jar.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by jubilance1922

That is such a pet peeve of mine as well. Every establishment does not need a tip jar.

It almost makes me feel obligated to tip when there's a jar there.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by PM_Mama00

And maybe if people weren't such cheap asses and understood how to show monetary appreciation to someone who is providing them a service, then serving wouldn't be such a shitty job.

It would still be a shitty job.

That's "in general." Many servers absolutely love what they do for a living.

They need the Server's Union to make the public more aware of the dynamics of tipping. Most of us already know it's up to 15% and that tipping is part of good etiquette and humanity. But we don't know who gets the tips in every establishment and tax stuff.

[OOhsoflyDELTA#9]

Originally Posted by PM_Mama00

And maybe if people weren't such cheap asses and understood how to show monetary appreciation to someone who is providing them a service, then serving wouldn't be such a shitty job.

I'm playing the world's smallest violin right now....

if serving is a shitty job get another one...

a lot of people that I know serve because its flexible and they say that they make decent money..I wanted more then decent money so I secured a job that affords me as such...anyone can do it...I'm far from cheap, but I'm not going to just give my money away either...bottom line cuz this horse is just about dead is we're not going to agree...I personally wouldn't attempt to support my child/household on a job that depended on tips..God bless those who do...