Recommendation Caution to PNM's

[SWTXBelle]

Some national/international headquarters require recs, even if the local panhellenic culture doesn't. As has been said before, they are always a good idea. Far better to have them, and not need them, than to need them, and not have them.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Some national/international headquarters require recs, even if the local panhellenic culture doesn't. As has been said before, they are always a good idea. Far better to have them, and not need them, than to need them, and not have them.

It says that a rec is required to become initiated in our Promise Book (NM manual). However, I have been an initiated member for 4 years and I'd really like to know who wrote that rec for me, or if that rule has changed.

[deadbear80]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

It says that a rec is required to become initiated in our Promise Book (NM manual). However, I have been an initiated member for 4 years and I'd really like to know who wrote that rec for me, or if that rule has changed.

In some organizations, undergrad members can write recs. Your chapter may have secured a rec for you through someone you already knew in the chapter without your knowledge of her doing so.
I also know that some chapters will contact Alumnae Panhellenic chapters when the list of registered girls comes out (especially when recruitment is deferred) to try to get recs that way. So you just never know...

[honeychile]

In today's church bulletin, there was a blurb about a young woman about to attend an SEC school this fall. She was bright enough to mention that she was hoping to join a sorority, and if any of the church ladies would like to help her, she would be most grateful.

Now, this is my mother's church - about 150 members. I know of 6 recs she could get from this one church, and I think she's very smart doing this prior to the Mother Daughter Banquet. Whether this would work in a really large church, I don't know. But I think it's worth a try, especially for someone NOT in the South, but planning to attend an SEC school.

[SoCalGirl]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

It says that a rec is required to become initiated in our Promise Book (NM manual). However, I have been an initiated member for 4 years and I'd really like to know who wrote that rec for me, or if that rule has changed.

I've written recs for NMs after meeting them. They had no idea.

[Zillini]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

It says that a rec is required to become initiated in our Promise Book (NM manual). However, I have been an initiated member for 4 years and I'd really like to know who wrote that rec for me, or if that rule has changed.

We have the same policy. When we have a new member that doesn't have a rec we look for an alum in her hometown/area who would be willing to write one. If that isn't possible then one of our advisors will make a point of spending time with the NM and then write her rec. Honestly I doubt the NM knows any of this. It might embarrass her to find out that she was the only one in her whole NM class who didn't have a rec.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

It says that a rec is required to become initiated in our Promise Book (NM manual). However, I have been an initiated member for 4 years and I'd really like to know who wrote that rec for me, or if that rule has changed.

Delta Gamma's Executive Offices keeps a little form on each pledge/new member. I've seen mine, and it listed my sponsor (and I wrote a note to thank her!). Maybe Sigma Kappa has a similar arrangement.