I know it's hard for us to remember how we felt and thought as 14-16 year olds, but I think we can all agree that a 16 year old does not think as a mature adult. Sixteen year olds - most of them anyway - don't really grasp the full consequences of their actions. They go with their gut, their feelings, and don't reason the way adults do. Many teens - and young adults - have unprotected sex all the time. Not because they don't know any better, because "safe sex" education has been shoved down most of their throats, but because they just don't care. As insane as that is to adults, they just don't care...they're too busy thinking about the fun their having. We can only blame parents so much for the actions of their kids. When it comes to sex, I really think all a parent can do is make sure their kids have information and offer a supportive ear; some kids will heed the advice they've heard at home/in school, and others will blow it off. That is a bad decision that kids make for themselves, knowing what the consequences are, but just not caring enough to stop themselves from preventing the consequences.
Regarding the stat. rape comments, even if it's rape in Calif., the L.A. County prosecutor is not going to press charges. This is a celebrity, and everyone knows that celebs. in Hollywood have totally different dating/mating habits than "normal" people. This guy wasn't predatory, which is the primary reason for statuatory rape laws - J.L. Spears does not live the lifestyle of a typical teenage girl. Also, it's clear her mother at least knew about their relationship and was fine with it...even though charges are brought by the prosecutor, in the case of stat. rape, I don't think they'd often appear in a courtroom in the case where a parent has no complaints.
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