living together before marriage: opinions?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

I wonder if there would have been a way to foresee it living together but without the additional stress of mortgage and children? I don't know.

I was going to say if Dee & her hubby had lived together, they would have probably had the same problems unless they kept their finances entirely separate.

Pretty much, look at how your SO's parents handle money...and you'll get a good preview of how he/she will do so. That's one lesson I fortunately learned very early.

Jocelyn, there's no way in hell your friend's going to get married, and if she does, no way it'll last 6 months. "Prodding" does not lead to successful marriages.

[Kevin]

My law practice will probably be majority family law. That said, I am thrilled about the trend where people move in together prior to marriage, have babies, and quickly get divorced. I am even more thrilled that most of these people don't learn that this is not smart the first time they do it.

That said, my wife, who at the time, I had been with for 5 years, moved in with me a year prior to our wedding. For us, it worked. For anyone else? The statistics seem to point out that your chances of a successful relationship at that point are decreased.

-- but what is your goal? A long term relationship? Or a roommate who shares your bed?

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Kevin

My law practice will probably be majority family law.

You have my sympathy.

[Kevin]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

You have my sympathy.

In isn't that bad. We did have a client commit suicide this week, but it's been an unusually bad week.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Kevin

In isn't that bad. We did have a client commit suicide this week, but it's been an unusually bad week.

Yikes. I just don't have domestic law in me.