Maid of Honor advice?

[GeekyPenguin]

One thing I would keep in mind when you order the dresses is to let the BMs pick their own sizes. When I was MOH in my best friend's wedding last year, they told me I needed to order a size 22. I almost always wear a size 14 in dresses, so I was like "WTF?" I thought my measurements matched the 16, but my best friend was flipping out that my dress wouldn't fit (she has some ED issues, whole other story) so I ordered the 18 to appease her. I had to pay an extra $40 for the dress for a "plus size", and then when they came in it was HUGE - I could take it on and off without zippering it. The bridal shop wanted another $150 for alterations. My boyfriend's paralegal is a wonderful seamstress and she altered it for me for a box of chocolates. We had to take a whole panel out of the dress, it was absolutely ridiculous.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by GeekyPenguin

One thing I would keep in mind when you order the dresses is to let the BMs pick their own sizes.

Oh my goodness, of course. I've had this happen to me before, where the bride tells me I need a size, so I get it, and it doesn't fit. At the end of the day, they are the ones who have to be comfortable, not me or the bride.

[AOII_LB93]

Yes, do be careful on the size issue. I've been in several weddings and the stores have always told me "Oh order the next size up just in case..." In case of what? I'm a size 4. One place told me I needed a 10. I laughed and ordered the 4. I didn't need any alterations. That's how they screw you anyhow.

I was MOH in my cousins wedding...all of the party was different sizes, and the dress was a two piece with an elastic waistband. I got mine sent in from out of state, took it to the local tailor and they took out the elastic, and threw on a zipper. The rest of the party was pissed...they wished that they had thought of that. Elastic waistbands are not a good look.

Anyhow, my MOH was my cousin and she was great, but then I was pretty easy going and she lives out of state so she didn't really have to do much. On the day of the wedding and at rehearsal she ran interferance as we were out of the country and people were starting to drive me nuts asking me 8000 questions and wondering why we weren't getting married where they wanted us to be. She basically kept the irritating people away on that day so that my husband and I could just enjoy the day.

[bluefish81]

I've only been MOH once for my sister's wedding, and the only thing that I don't see mentioned is that I had to give a toast at the wedding reception.

As far as bridesmaid dress shopping goes, have fun! When I was a bridesmaid in another wedding for one of my best friends where another best friend was the MOH, the three of us went shopping for the dresses. The bride had already gone looking for the dresses with another bridesmaid (my evil roommate at the time) who had turned her self into a bridesmaidzilla. Bridesmaidzilla would only try on one dress and then decided she was done, came home that evening and said that they'd found the dress (because it would flatter her bodytype). WTF? So the three of us went out that weekend tried on dozens of dresses and I came home and said that we'd found the dresses that we'd wearing. They looked supercute on all of us.