I lost my son KAP Jr. - Page 4

DSTCHAOS · #1 12-18-2007, 10:35 AM

My friend lost a sister years ago and decided to conduct business as usual because not doing so would've meant his life was shutting down. That would've made him more depressed. He wasn't at a party, though.

I personally wouldn't be strolling at a party OR creating threads about it. But of course you mourn however you choose.

DSTCHAOS · #2 12-18-2007, 10:40 AM

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Don't dictate to me how I should and shouldn't mourn or go about doing it.

I wasn't being sarcastic when I typed "but of course you mourn however you choose."

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Stay in your lane, capiche?

While this is the Krappa forum and a thread about a supposed loss, if you truly want folks to "stay in their lane" you don't create thread announcements.

KAPital PHINUst · #3 12-18-2007, 10:35 AM

You know folks, I thank you for your support and condolences, but if you are not going to offer them, please don't hijack the thread with irrelevant commentary. *eyes on Chaos, LG, and AlphaFrog*

DSTCHAOS · #4 12-18-2007, 10:36 AM

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*eyes on Chaos, LG, and AlphaFrog*

I hadn't even said much YET.

AlphaFrog · #5 12-18-2007, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by KAPital PHINUst

You know folks, I thank you for your support and condolences, but if you are not going to offer them, please don't hijack the thread with irrelevant commentary. *eyes on Chaos, LG, and AlphaFrog*

I really hope you don't think you're going to successfully put a lid on LG, Chaos and I. When have any of the three of us let someone tell us when to not post our opinions?

DSTCHAOS · #6 12-18-2007, 10:41 AM

And I think there's a reason this thread is so short.

nittanyalum · #7 12-18-2007, 11:50 AM

Ok, well, I am just going to have to continue to believe you were genuine in your OP, because I just can't fathom otherwise. Those of us who have lost babies know there's nothing harder to get over and my heart truly ached for you (and particularly the mom) when I read your post. So I'm just going to try to stay away from any of these threads because I really don't think I could handle finding out that this may in any way be a ploy for attention or something. That would be the most unforgivable thing I can think of. So I'll keep my delusion, if that's what it is, and continue to think good thoughts for the mom, especially, if there is one out there who is dealing with that deepest of pain and loss.

KAPital PHINUst · #8 12-18-2007, 12:03 PM

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Ok, well, I am just going to have to continue to believe you were genuine in your OP, because I just can't fathom otherwise. Those of us who have lost babies know there's nothing harder to get over and my heart truly ached for you (and particularly the mom) when I read your post. So I'm just going to try to stay away from any of these threads because I really don't think I could handle finding out that this may in any way be a ploy for attention or something. That would be the most unforgivable thing I can think of. So I'll keep my delusion, if that's what it is, and continue to think good thoughts for the mom, especially, if there is one out there who is dealing with that deepest of pain and loss.

Thank you, Nittany. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

btw, I finally spoke with the mother in depth last Friday for the first time in over a month. Due to the high level of scrutiny in this thread, if you would like details, you may PM me.

And again, thank you so very much for your words of support.

ladygreek · #9 12-18-2007, 03:14 PM

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Originally Posted by KAPital PHINUst

btw, I finally spoke with the mother in depth last Friday for the first time in over a month. Due to the high level of scrutiny in this thread, if you would like details, you may PM me.

Why? Does "she" know you are putting details about her personal life out on the Net?

mccoyred · #10 12-18-2007, 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by nittanyalum

Ok, well, I am just going to have to continue to believe you were genuine in your OP, because I just can't fathom otherwise. Those of us who have lost babies know there's nothing harder to get over and my heart truly ached for you (and particularly the mom) when I read your post. So I'm just going to try to stay away from any of these threads because I really don't think I could handle finding out that this may in any way be a ploy for attention or something. That would be the most unforgivable thing I can think of. So I'll keep my delusion, if that's what it is, and continue to think good thoughts for the mom, especially, if there is one out there who is dealing with that deepest of pain and loss.

Having lost two myself, this is my perspective. I better not find out that the OP is some ploy for attention 'cause that shyt ain't funny

ladygreek · #11 12-18-2007, 04:56 PM

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Having lost two myself, this is my perspective. I better not find out that the OP is some ploy for attention 'cause that shyt ain't funny

No it's not.

I had a good friend that once we both graduated from college and moved from the Lou, we lost contact. Then one day she called me to update me on her "life." She said she was married and had four kids. During the conversation she would sometimes interrupt it and say something to the kids or her husband. However, I never heard their voices in the background.

Then a couple of years later, she called me to say she had lost her husband and kids in a house fire--she was the only one who survived. I asked my mother about is (she was friends with this soror's mother) and she said the mother never mentioned that to her.

Then a few years later she called to say she had had a brain tumor, but the surgery had cured her.

Her last call--about ten years ago--was that she was living in FL with her new husband who was an Arab and filthy rich, but he was cheating on her and she was so hurt.

She was in real estate and a soror I knew worked with her. I finally asked her about all of this and she told me none of it was true.

So I learned that there are people out there who have a great need for sympathetic attention.

KAPital PHINUst · #12 12-18-2007, 05:47 PM

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No it's not.

...So I learned that there are people out there who have a great need for sympathetic attention.

Then I must also be lying to the Nupes in my chapter, who know the story from start to finish and met the lady personally.

I find it ironic that the same person who was compelled to confirm my membership in Kappa wouldn't think to confirm my story with other NUPES I shared it with, particularly ones in my chapter.

RedVelvet · #13 12-18-2007, 06:51 PM

This is just too sad for words.

ladygreek · #14 12-18-2007, 08:57 PM

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Originally Posted by KAPital PHINUst

Then I must also be lying to the Nupes in my chapter, who know the story from start to finish and met the lady personally.

I find it ironic that the same person who was compelled to confirm my membership in Kappa wouldn't think to confirm my story with other NUPES I shared it with, particularly ones in my chapter.

Your chapter is not the most credible source considering they initiated you.

DSTCHAOS · #15 12-18-2007, 05:17 PM

There are crazy people. I've had people make up tragedies and other things to get attention or to explain away certain things.

For instance, if someone is ridiculed for being a loser, they may suddenly show up with a story to tell about how they've become popular and even found a mate. Then they might make up a tale about they have decided to start a family. But if it doesn't pan out for whatever reason, such as people starting to ask for details or wanting to invite the family to events, tragedy usually strikes. Tragedies include the mate disappearing suddenly or the other aspects of the family having a tragic end.