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Originally Posted by Low C Sharp
IMHO, we ought to tread carefully before we judge what a rape survivor ought to feel when suddenly confronted with a reminder of the assault. I agree that if the attack is still affecting her daily life, then it's smart to seek help for that, but plenty of people seek help and still experience intrusive feelings about the trauma. A horror like that is not curable. Different people will recover at different speeds, and carry different permanent scars. Whatever her feelings may be twenty years later, they are valid, and saying that she ought to "get past it" and "move on" -- like that's just a choice -- is quite dismissive of her trauma and its consequences.
Aren't you eager to believe that your positive experience is representative?
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As for your last sentence, I believe it's human nature to believe ANY positive experience is representative, unless you get some sort of perverse joy from doing the opposite. If you go to CVS all the time and normally have no problem except for ONE day a clerk isn't the nicest, that's hardly reason for you to say that all CVSs are horrid, unless you get off on putting things and people down.
We aren't saying she needs to "get past it" just because she freaked out in Gymboree when she saw an ex-sister. It's understandable that an encounter like that would unnerve her. This woman cannot be around ANY LARGE GROUP OF WOMEN without feeling trauma. That isn't a typical experience of a rape survivor. She has 2 small children, and she really needs to get help before she implants the mindset in them that other women can't be trusted. They don't deserve to suffer because of her experience.
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